I am making up my wedding invitations and need help in the wording.?

Question

My mother is helping us pay for the wedding and my fiance's parents have refused to give any money (said if they contribute they want to control it,) So how can we word our invitations to say my mother along with us are the hosts. We will put "son of " to include them a little, just not as hosts. So how can we word it?

Answer 1

If you include their names on the invitation, they will appear as hosts in the eyes of many people. My opinion would be that if they are not in any way assisting with the wedding, they don't have the privilege of appearing on the invitation as a contributor.

But if you must, how about... (change the wording so the right genders match)

Together with her parents
Angela and Brad Hawkins
Sophie B. Hawkins
requests the pleasure of your company
at her marriage to
Michael Jordan
son of Nancy and Bob Jones

date
time
location
etc.

Answer 2

I have only seen "son of" when the bride's parents are the hosts. So I'm not sure how you would word an invitation where the couple and only the bride's parents are hosting, but also including "son of". I guess you could say something like this:

Jane Doe
and
Jim Smith
son of Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
together with the mother of the bride
Ms. Janet Doe
invite you to share in the joy
when they exchange marriage vows
and begin their new life together
Day, date of Month
year
at time
Location
Address
City, State

We were in a similar situation. My parents helped contribute towards the cost of our wedding, but the majority of the costs we paid for. Since traditionally parents of the bride are the hosts, I chose to list my parents as the host out of respect for them (even though we were paying for most of it ourselves). Our invitations read:

Mr. John and Mrs. Mary Doe
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Doe
to
Jim Smith
son of Mr. John and Mrs. Sallie Smith
Day, date of Month
year
Location
Address
City, State

Answer 3

Ms Your Mom's Full Name
Requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Your Name--First and Middle Only
to
Your Fiance's Full Name
Son of His Parents' Names
Day, Month
Year
at Time
Church
Address
City, State


...When I went to get my invitations, I was told it is actually not at all "proper" to put the groom's parents' names on the invite. The bride's parents are giving her away, it has nothing to do with who's hosting the party. The invite is for the church. So you really don't have to put his parents' names at all. (I wouldn't, if they didn't pitch in ANY money...)

Answer 4

You mother is the hostess, so her name goes first.

Mother of the Bride requests
the honour of your presence at the
marriage of her daughter
Brides Name
to
Grooms Name
son of Mr and Mrs Grooms Parents
on Day, Date
at Time
Location
Address
City, State Zip

Answer 5

With much joy and pride Mrs. ......announces
the marriage of her daughter .
Ashley Jean to
John Jones
son of Mr. and Mrs. John Jones Sr.
on Sat. the 6th of July 2007
at St. Johns Church
2006 James St.
Cleveland, Ohio

Reception to follow
The Swan Club
3007 State Street
Cleveland, Ohio
RSVP

Answer 6

Mrs Susan Jones
requests the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of her daughter
Betsy Sue
to
Sam Edward Smith
son of
Mr and Mrs John Smith

Hows that?

Answer 7

The wording of the invitation has nothing to do with how you word the invitations! Not at all -- it is icky to even think that way.
Just use normal, suggested wording for the invitations - daughter of and son of, etc. Or go with the generic "The families of ..."

Answer 8

You use the traditional wording for this one.

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honor of your company at
the wedding of their daughter
Bride's Full Name
to Groom's Full Name
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents

Instead of "request the honor of your company at" you could say something like "invite you to celebrate" or something.

Answer 9

I would let it go. Be gracious. Do not be that petty. You are going to be family with these people. By putting there name on the card, just as your parents, it will show them, wow- uh we didn't contribute but look how wonderful they are not to point it out. You are going to have to share your life with these people. Don't start off bad.