My husband keeps knocking on my backdoor but I won't let him in.?

Question

He is just too big. I am scared. What should I do?

Answer 1

You need to start out with smaller stuff first and gradually move your way up to his size. Make sure that you use plenty of wet stuff so that he won't get stuck in the door. Also, if you are laying on your back when he comes in, it isn't as bad. You have to be completely relaxed and ready for it. Once he's in, you'll be amazed at how much you could love it...

Answer 2

Can I come over and start knocking on your backdoor. I am not too big, just 7 inches. Should be good start for you. If you can take me in.. then maybe you can take your hubby as well. Let me know when I can come over thru your backdoor.

Answer 3

Lots of lubrication and lots of communication!

First of all, before you do anything anal, make sure you go to the bathroom, completely empty your bowels and bladder and wash your butt thoroughly.

You don't want any nasty suprises splattering on your bedsheet, plus you need to be really relaxed to have pain-free anal - and you can't relax if you have to go to the bathroom!

It will really help if you have a product that gay men call 'poppers' - the chemical names are "amyl nitrate" or "butyl nitrate" and they are usually sold as "VCR head cleaner" in stores that cater to gay men. They act as a muscle relaxant so the butt muscles will unclench and won't tear when you take it up the butt.

Then, after you've gone to the bathroom, relieved yourself, washed your butt and sniffed the poppers, you'll want to start gradually working your way into anal.

Have your husband start with a finger - make sure he's got latex gloves on and he uses a LOT of lube (KY works best - vaseline makes latex deteriorate). You have to be very relaxed when he does this so you can unclench your butt muscles and let him in.

Once you've gotten comfortable with one of his fingers, then you might want to let him use two fingers the next time. And then once you're used to two fingers let him go in with 3 fingers.

Once your butt is used to being penetrated, then and only then is it time for you to let him use his penis.

Remember, latex and lots and lots of KY jelly. And YOU set the pace, not him (remember, it's your butt that will get torn if he does it wrong!).

And anytime you want to stop, that's IT, everthing comes to a halt when you say the word!

It's a process, but I'm sure he'll appreciate it in the end - and so will you, since you'll have discovered a whole new sexual outlet!

Answer 4

I would suggest you discuss this issue with him openly. Also, talk to some of your girlfriends and see if they have had this experience. As a recommendation, if you decide to go through with this (and you might actually enjoy it - most all men do, and many women do), proceed slowly and carefully. There is a lot of information available in the net about this, and, yes, TOO BIG can be a problem - but if you might be able to satisfy his urges and desires with toys or his fingers! Good luck and have fun!

Answer 5

If it's really not something that you want to do, don't do it. Marriage doesn't give any special rights to force a specific type of sexual relationship.

If you're just nervous about it, but curious, try experimenting a bit, with set rules. Sex toys come in a variety of sizes that would let you experiment with penetration a bit more comfortably. You may come to find it enjoyable that way, or you may firm up your resolve that it's not for you.

Either way, talk to your husband clearly about how you're feeling about the issue, and make sure he's understanding and on the same page with you.

Answer 6

If you aren't letting him in there only because you are scared then there are ways around it ... practice alone using toys until you can accomodate something the same thickness as him.. then when you are ready tell him to begin with LOTS of lube and one finger.. then two.. then three or even use the toy that you practiced with. Then tell him to get into position and you will back onto him as slow as you need to go..

another thing you can try is tell him that he doesn't get yours until you get his and then go and buy a strap-on the same thickness

Answer 7

Tell him you want to do his backdoor with an object and see how he likes it.

Dont take it in the backdoor, it can cause alot of health problems espiecally if hes too big

I dont know why some men are obessed with that, i think it has something to do with being bi curious!!! Go do a boy in the back if you want it so bad ya gays


P.s

Im so thankful my boyfriend isnt like that :)

Answer 8

Watch some movies together....no not the kind made by guys for guys, all the gals in those are so loose you could park your SUV without scraping the walls!
Get one made by women for women, and just to show what's good for the goose is good for the gander, maybe pick up one of the "bend over boyfriend" series...hey it's only fair! lol

Answer 9

Tell him you dont want to and if he insists he is a selfish sob. Come on. What gives here? Judging from your answers you are a man not a woman..and perhaps a pervert. If you look into the history of alot of sexual questions it seems to be that the people that ask these types of questions are often men posing as women. I mean what jollies do these men get asking questions that are sexual over and over..if that is all it takes for some i guess...

Answer 10

playing is on of the toughest addictions to triumph over if he has a project with playing as his spouse you ought to get him some help and get counseling for him via fact he won't be waiting to do it on my own. in case you adore him you will see him by way of this habit. might desire to invite him to take you out so as that his time is spent with you and not on the on line casino. sturdy action picture to computer screen (even money) it truly is appropriate on your situation too