I need serious advice to do with drugs.?

Question

I think my fiance is doing and/or selling meth. We have no money, yet he makes about $25 an hour. With the little bit that I bring home from my part time job, that should be well enough to pay our bills. He lies about where he is going all the time. He also lies about who calls him. Last night he said his brother called, yet when I checked later (yes, frown, I have not trust left) it was not his brother he was talking to, it was a guy who I know is on meth. Anyways, I know there is something fishy going on, but what can I do? He denies that he has anything to do with it, but I know thats not true. Can I call a cop, or someone, and not get myself in trouble. I've known for a long time that something strange is going on, so will I get in any trouble with the law, too? I want to give the authorities all the phone numbers he calls, and that call him, and see what they can do. Will this be a stupid move? Has anyone been here before? Please be serious.

Answer 1

you can make an anonymous call to the police and tell them your suspicions. you can also give them permission to tap your phone lines so that you personally, dont have to give them the numbers. if you get the ball rolling and the police find out on thier own, then its not all on you. meth is very very dangerous and lots of meth users tend to be violent. good luck to you, but please dont stick around to see the worst of this. break it off with him and go stay at a safe place, maybe a friend or a family members house. tell the cops your suspicions and let them do the investigating. stay out of his business and as far away from him as possible. believe me youre doing the right thing, meth ruins families and communities, it has become an epidemic in this country in just a few years. you wont get in any trouble, in fact think of all the people you are helping by getting him off of the street.

avoiding him or ending the relationship isnt going to help him or anybody else. he needs treatment, tell him you know there is a problem and urge him to check into a rehab facility - if he refuses, that is when you leave. it is also your duty as a citizen to protect your community. tipping off the cops about his meth use and possible sales involvement could save dozens of people and families from the torture you are going through.

Answer 2

If you don't trust him anymore then really there's no point in staying in the relationship, or maybe you ought to put it on hold or something (until he cleans up, you guys work out the lying problems, etc).... I'd confront him again but with some serious evidence about this meth business and if he still denies it then leave him. It's one thing that he's lying to you, but it's another when it's illegal and could seriously inadvertantly get you in trouble too. Do you live with him? If I were you I wouldn't want to chance myself getting in trouble with the authorities, so what I'd do is leave the residence asap (not to mention that it's a hazardous drug!)

Answer 3

I have 2 kids, {with my ex} same thing, I KNEW there was something not right, we almost lost the house. ALL he ever did was deny deny deny. After about a year he an-tied up and said it was "coke" the day he told me was the day he left. I have 2 kids to think of. Had he been forthcoming in the beginning I might have stuck around to help him get out of it. But to deny and then when when things are really bad, suddenly want my help NO WAY. out he went. It was hard but it had to be done. Sometimes no matter how much you love them it is never enough. If you have kids or are thinking about it, you need to get out. You need to put yourself first, he will only drag you down, and it is not a fun ride. My ex swore the he was clean and wanted another chance, he had more relapses than I have fingers.

If you suspect it and have a gut feeling about it, go with that, your intuition is usually right. If you want to go to the cops make sure you {or he} is out of there first. Messing with those people can be bad. They value their money more that people. I don't want to scare you but you wanted the truth.

I hope this helps. Good luck, and know that things do get better, if you make the right decision.

Answer 4

Hi Erin, First you have to get out of the relationship.This is most important. If you plan on notifying the authorities then you have to protect yourself. Second, there is really nothing you can do to make him come clean with you,we went through this with one of my brothers. When the time come,he will hit bottom and realize he needs help. Right now you have to worry about you and only you. Being put in this position isn't right, you didn't ask for it. The authorities can only do so much and in the event you are there you will be arrested too... I wish you all the best and hope he wakes up to see how he is throwing his life away..

Answer 5

As an officer with over 30 years....I've seen some pretty sad things resulting from the use or sale of illegal drugs.

As a narcotics officer for the past 20 years...I've seen some pretty sad things with the families of those involved in the use or sale of illegal drugs.

The drug methamphetamine has become extremely popular not because of its' positive attributes...but because it is a drug which sinks its "hooks" in to the user quickly and to a point where discontinued use is extremely difficult.

Knowing your "fiance" is possibly involved in the illegal drug trade makes your life extremely difficult AND extremely hazardous. The people involved with methamphetamine are known to experience serious mood swings and paranoia.

Personally, I'd suggest you find a better man for yourself, however, too often the "significant other" is too unwilling to "lose the love of their life."

My suggestion is you contact your local law enforcement agency and request to speak with a narcotics officer who can give you guidance with this serious problem.

If I didn't know what I was talking about....the other posters wouldn't be saying essentially the same thing....dump him!

I've also included a website below that provides some very good information about methamphetamine.

My prayers are with you and best wishes!

Answer 6

If you're worried about getting in trouble for being with someone who sells meth, don't. If you have been suspicious for a long time then decide to report him, that's what you're SUPPOSED to do by law. You are telling them the information if you do that, not hiding the crime, so you' won't be in trouble with the law. They can't expect you to have called if you didn't know for sure until now, in fact if you'd done so it would have been more irresponsible than anything.

Answer 7

Call crime stoppers local number. Give limited info. Let the law figure out the details. They have subpoena rights etc for phone records. Even if he does time you ultimately are: A.) Doing him a huge favor. He may be safer in a lock-up.Drugs are hard to get in there. B).. You would be protecting yourself. Ever hear of drive by shootings, drug raids etc.Obviously he is not thinking of protecting you Contact a lawyer for more info re: you liabilities. You may be liable for criminal charges.

Answer 8

Just get out of the house and dump him. You WILL get in trouble if the authorities find meth in your home. You should leave him and find someone without all the fishiness.

Answer 9

Well, if you have no trust in this man then it's time to get rid of him and move on. As for the drugs, I would turn him in and protect my self frist and for most. Just a thought, go to the court house and speak with the district attorney, and see what help he or she could be. But get away from this man before you end up in jail with him. Whats stupid, is if you do'nt do something about it for our self.

Answer 10

Think about all the people u wiill be helping look at this girl this is what drugs will do to you over a course of 10 years She looks 20 and the end pic is early 30's
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