I have told this friend of many years that I like her so much. I told her even that she had the most affect of anyone in my life. She was really happy it seemed, but we decided to stay friends mutually. Since then, she asked for our friendship to grow. I have been trying to woo her because I love her so much! I have "mistakingly" held her hand after dances, sent emails a lot, and flirted with her whenever I see her.
2007-02-22 02:21:05 · 6 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks like you've gotten yourself in the "friend" zone, which can happen when you open up to a girl emotionally before any attraction manifests on her part. It's tough to get out of, but instead of getting so emotional with her, you've got to get her attracted to you first. Do something different that she'll notice, like work out really hard for a few months and then take your shirt off in front of her, or become a snappy dresser, or come up with something on your own.
Point is, she sees you only as a friend, and no matter how much you love her, she won't see you differently unless you do something to make her look at you in a different light.
2007-02-22 02:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably to late to for her to see you as more than a friend, whatever the case may be you should try to keep the relationship just as friends. It's better that way, think about it if you did happen to get with her and you break up for some reason what then, then you have lost her. By just staying friends with her you ensure that she will be there. Also don't tell her staight up that you love her bla bla bla, and sending her tons of emails doesn't help. If you do that you are going to seem really creepy and that will scare her away, just try to keep it to yourself, but if the chance does arise that she gives you hints that she wants to be with you(let her do this on her own) then you decide if you want to take a chance of losing her cause let's face most relationships don't work. My advice is to let things happen on there own don't force it.
2007-02-22 10:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Army Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your trying to hard, sounds to me...its just right. She asked for your relationship to grow, and you are wooing her, which is sweet, holding her hand is just a gentle reminder that you care, the emails...well, don't over do it, one a day, only if she answers it back..ya gotta keep the conversation flowing, but if she goes for a few days without answering..don't flog her mailbox....just remain patient. Those emails and the flirting is just small reminders that keep you on her mind.
I think your easing the relationship onward just right.....go with the flow and don't rush her....
2007-02-22 10:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a guy absolutely ur suppose to be smooth about it not come on to strong but still show some feelings. its alright to be flirting but u might wanna lessen up on the emails it might start to seem desperate....hope it helps
2007-02-22 10:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how she is reacting to you. If she pulls away when you hold her hand, then it's too much. If not, then she likes it. If she flirts back and laughs at your jokes, she likes it. If not, then it's too much. Pay attention to her and how she reacts.
2007-02-22 10:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are doing good. Just keep being her friend and take things slow.
2007-02-22 10:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Selena H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋