Don't I have a right to my own free will?

Question

I'm about 21, live on my own, taking classes in college, pay all the bills (but gas), pay for the groceries, and pay a little bit of rent.

A couple of months ago I become reaquanted with a pal from middles school and we're close now. I also made a good through her. I told my great-aunt who I lived with for 2 years, I pay rent to, and pays gas, the truth that she's homo and gothic. Yesterday when I was with her and the other friend, who is a male (so what?) at his place, my great-aunt called me on my cell. I answer and told her the tryth on who I was with, and where I was. She seemed upset and said we'll need to talk. She didn't really say bye. Don't I have the right to do whatever the hell I want?

I'm not living with her. I did part 2004 and 2005. I move out a year ago.

I mentioned 21 proving am an adult, and she pays the gas for the house.

Answer 1

If you are living under her roof and not paying fair market value for the room or place you rent, then yes, you have given your aunt or whomever esle is giving you a price break a right to know where/when/why and when you will return and who with.

If you want your own free will, move into a place owned by a 3rd party where you pay full market value for the place, then, and only then, is your life your own!

Answer 2

There's a lot left out of your question. For instance, what do you mean by about 21? You are independent, more or less at age 18. You do pay rent to a great aunt and she pays for gas. Is this gas for heat or gas for your car? She has some, but not much say about how you live your life. She does have a right to tell you who can or cannot live in the house/apartment you rent from her. She has a right to ask you to leave the place you rent. She has a right to cut off relations with you. These are her choices and her free will. You have the right to decide who your friends are and who you want to hang out with. Having free will doesn't always mean being free of consequences.

Answer 3

As janicajayne said, you owe your great-aunt. The thing is, it's respect you owe her, while what you're wanting to claim is your right. This is delicate and awkward, but there may still be a satisfactory middle ground. If auntie could see beyond the surface to the inner character/values of your friends, she mightn't worry or be afraid (for you)(or maybe scared you'll bring them into her life...). You may not wish to lie or deceive in order to be true to yourself, so something tender to your heart tears at you.
When you speak with auntie, which may be an ongoing, progressive thing I hope, approach her in a manner she'll perceive as open to her, responsive of her input and perspective, and not aggressive in demanding your right. You can't plead or beg, but alienating her by seeming angry or belligerent will only increase and prolong the difficulty.
You know her best, find a way to get on a common wavelength ('your best interests' is probably the real issue) and try to go from there.
People change their appearances, their styles. Who they are as humans is most important, I hope you get the opportunity to reveal to her that they're not dangerous for you.
I guess she wouldn't want them over for dinner?
Best wishes for your complete harmony.

Answer 4

Not as long as you are living with her. You owe her respect for taking you in and giving you a home, whether you help with bills or not. If you want your own life, get your own place to live.

Answer 5

hell yea! Girl if ur great-aunt gotta issue.. she just gotta issue.. she doesn't control who u r or who u hang out with. if she gets upset and doesn't talk 2 u 4ever bcuz u choose 2 hang out with certain ppl (that rnt doing bad things) then thats on her.

Answer 6

Did you ever ask her why she was up-set??? It may not have anything to do with who or where you were....