Me and my wife got into a fight the other day and we are trying to reconcile and the military is trying to keep us apart by issuing a no contact order for 30 days, we are both in the military and we both want to work it out and talk to one another but the military is being difficult and I was wondering if any one else out there has gone through something like this and what grounds do I have to stand on thanks
2007-02-22 02:03:26 · 9 answers · asked by mustang64093red 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Contact your post chaplain, explain the situation and ask about marriage counseling. He MAY be able to work it out where as the 2 of you can meet with him to discuss issues etc... However the order most likely wont' be totally reversed, but its possible he can make it where you can atleast meet in a supervised setting.
The no contact order is there for a reason, granted I don't know what happened but it is probably in the best interest for now if you do take the time apart. If nothing else to realize exactly how much you do want each other and deter you from another instance. Good luck!
2007-02-22 02:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation and you have no grounds to stand on. You either have to wait until the 30 days elapses or have the order lifted by your commander. Talking with your 1st Sgt would probably be the first move and then possible the ADC, but I've had no help from them in the past. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 13:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jay F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that you both want to work it out. Protective orders are issued for good reason and that you want to blame the military for the order indicates that you have a problem. I doubt that your wife wants to work it out. You may wish to think that but these orders are issued for good reason by reasonable people. You can't reconcile until you make changes in your views and attitudes. You are blaming the issuing agency as though they are part of the problem. The order is not the problem, its the conduct and stop kidding yourself by thinking you still have total control over your wife and can speak for her. You need to address your issues.
2007-02-22 10:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tom W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend was in the military serving in Alaska with his wife. They got in a fight one day and his sargeant tried to put a restraining order against him. My friend and him had to work it out, and he ended up getting an honorable discharge. Just keep your cool even when they try to provoke you. Good luck, and get a lawyer. Maybe he won´t help but they are paid to make it look like they do, so it´ll atleast help a little bit. Bye.
2007-02-22 10:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Area Defense Council if you seriously want intervention. They might be able to help but for bot your sakes, I would make sure any meeting at the ADC is Civil and low keyed. Any more problems would be very detrimental.
The Army Chaplains may be able to intervene as well. Worth a call............
2007-02-22 10:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by aiminhigh24u2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can contact SJA but ultimately the decision is up to your commander(s). The only other possibility is to work you way up the chain of command, but you probably already know where that will go.
2007-02-22 10:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Judge Dredd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This tells me you two apparently have quite a history. You will get your best answer from base legal.
2007-02-22 10:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone in JAG. They will give you the best answers not someone on here.
2007-02-22 10:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by C B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhh, another functional military couple, how stereotypical and sad....
2007-02-22 10:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by NCMOMMAAC 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋