How can I look older? I am 24 yet I look like a teen, (I am pregnant and hate to get ugly looks)?

Question

I am short (5 feet) small frame, round face, small hands, small eyes, small lips, small nose (everything in me is small!)
My wedding ring is not huge, is actually kinda delicate so is not very visible.
Buying me "adult" clothes is a challenge since I cannot find much in my size and specialty stores are super expensive, so I end up buying junior clothes to economize.
I feel kinda paranoic when I go to the store cause I know I get ugly looks, or like disapointment in people faces like "oh my! look what our society is leading into" type of stuff.

Answer 1

I agree with everyone who is saying congratulations that you have the gift of a youthful look. But I know that what you're really looking for is an answer to your question.

You can buy clothes in Juniors/Ladies sizes that don't look middle-schoolish. Look for things that are a little more traditional - mid length skirts instead of shortie ones... regular levi's or other jeans instead of the super skinny low rise embroidered detail sparkly ones... Wear simple jewelery that looks classic - even if it is fake - think jackie kennedy. Simple short strings of pearls, basic pearl or gold or diamond earrings (fakes look just as good usually), etc. Stores like Kohl's are SUPER places to find all this sort of stuff at good prices. And remember, getting a pair of pants hemmed is NOT expensive. Buying maternity clothes at Target is a good idea and even if you pay to have them hemmed, they'll still be very reasonably priced.

Answer 2

Heh, I'm not small in stature but I get this problem, I'm 25 but I look about 17 or 18. I'm married and I have 3 children and one on the way. Isn't it so nice for people to judge before they know? I have a wedding band I NEVER take off and people still just assume I'm a single mother, when I go out and it's just me and my girls, for some reason. It really is quite annoying. You know another thing I find annoying? Women who, when you discuss this problem with them, say things like "Oh, when you are in your 30s you'll be thankful." And you point is what? Ok.... I'll be thankful for youthful apperance in my 30's , but that *REALLY* does not help me now, and it *REALLY* doesn't stop my 5 and 6 year olds from hearing the rude comments people make about me or them. Hmn... that may have turned into a bit of a rant... sorry bout that....

Answer 3

I'm in the same boat as you. I even have a younger sister (by two years) and everyone thinks she's older. and I'm in the financial services industry so the fact that I looked like I was 13 was a big hinderance at first. I'm now 22 and actually look my age. I actually cut my hair to look older and started wearing makeup and business casual clothes. I wear dress pants instead of jeans and stuff.
I found that the biggest change however was in me. A trusted friend told me how to cut my hair and dress"adult," and that helped a lot. But the biggest thing she told me was that once I got over the age factor (and how young I looked) other people would to. I sit down with clients that are like thirty years older than me and they don't question it anymore. I think that you need to walk with confidance and a smile on your face and realize that you know better than they do. I can promise you that when you start focusing on other things, they will to. That's a promise you can take to the bank with you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I felt the same way! I am also small, your size, and was 25 when I was pregnant. I always felt people were looking at me thinking I was a pregnant teen or something (no offense to anyone, trust me), and that they'd think bad about me. When in reality, I was older, and fully responsible for myself and independent. The worst time was when I went to Walmart with my mom and my younger sister. My sister is a lot younger than me, but just about my same height. So that was a bit awkward, if you can understand. I can't even imagine what people must have been thinking about me.
Anyway, you just have to try to stop worrying about it, I know it's hard, cuz I was the same way, and still am. You just need to remind yourself that no matter what people may think of you, if they don't know you they are just assuming things. Kinda like not judging a book by it's cover, ya know? You know the truth about yourself, if people assume otherwise, it's their own stupidity and ignorance. Just be yourself, don't change just because of what you are afraid others will think. Just do whatever it is that makes you comfortable as you are!

Answer 5

Oh my gosh that happened to me too!! Like you I am short and looked younger than I was. I actually ended up changing OB's after having searched for just the right one when the doctor made a statement to his nurse about the patient in room 1stating: I am sick of all these young girls coming in here with no job or husband and pregnant. Well since I was 24 years old and married already 5 years I found another doc and had a little girl. Shes 32 now and has a son of her own!

Answer 6

Cut your hair. You'll be amazed at how a different haircut can make you look older. I used to get a lot of dirty looks too. (I'm 25 with 4 kids ages 3-6. My 3yr olds are twins) I got a ton of looks when I was pregnant because I did not look old enough. I had longer hair back then so it made me look a lot younger then I was. I recently cut it off into a bob style and I don't really get those looks anymore.

Answer 7

God Blssed you with youth, own it and love it. These woman need to get over themselves, ignore them and go about your day this is their problem not yours. But have you tried shopping for petite clothing in the womans department. there are lots of clothes for shorter ladies now in regular stores like JCPenny and Sears. Also check out capri's sometimes they are so long that shorter ladies can wear them as pants. Congrats on your upcoming bundle of joy and settle into your own skin because you have a wonderul problem many other ladies would love to have.

Answer 8

i'm no longer the biggest fan of that answer, yet when i'm being completely straightforward, i love this question even a lot less. "and then her very last truth. "abortions are criminal interior the u . s . until eventually 24 weeks in all 50 states, because the fetus isn't doable". What. The. F*ck." What precisely is your problem with this statement?

Answer 9

I know its hard, but don't worry about what all those other people say. If they're not close to you (and obviously they aren't--people close to you would know your story) then their opinions don't matter. Let them think what they want--you know the truth and in a way it is kinda funny how they are misleading themselves.

I hear you about the juniors clothes. I am not short but I have to buy juniors jeans because I have yet to find a pair of misses ones that aren't baggy in all the wrong places. Jeans aren't so bad though. I would hate to have to wear only juniors shirts...

Answer 10

I have a young look about me as well. I am 32 and most people think I look 16 without make up. Don't rush yourself into looking older. Try to careless about what other people think of you. I know it's hard, but hold your head up high and be proud. You will be a new mother soon and you will want to pass that straight off to your child. I am now 32 and love it when people think I look young. I used to me like you though, upset about what people thought when I was 18 and pregnant, then 23 and pregnant, yes I got those disturbing looks to, but I held my head up high, thinking to myself... hey I made my choices and I am proud of it.