I split with my ex 6 months ago after nearly 4 and a half years together, he wanted me back after 3 weeks, but as he still didn't know what he wanted, it never happened. I have been doing well moving on and we have remained close friends. Today he told me he is bringing a girl to our friend's birthday party tomorrow - a first date. Even though I don't want to get back with him, I still feel gutted. How will I enjoy myself at this party if he is there in my face with this new girl! I really want to be strong. Any advice would be appreciated!!!
2007-02-22 01:54:20 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pretend to be strong even if you feel weak.
Say hallo to that girl and give her a FIRM hand shake and a smile.
For the rest, ignore them and socialise with with other people at the party.
If you have amale friend that you can talk to and ask him to help you out, take him with you and when he says something funny LAUGH and seem to be having a lot of fun.
If you dont want him back there will always be a time he finds someone else. Learn to accept that and wish him luck. Goodluck tomorrow,
2007-02-22 02:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being just friends after 4 and a half years is going to be super hard. Anyway you look at it, it will be painful. If you want to remain friends you have to accept the fact that you have no say on who he dates now. This wont be easy, but nothing but time will make it better. Seeing him with someone new is the price you pay for keeping him as a friend. Maybe you should give eachother some space for awhile to get used to the idea that you are no longer a couple.
2007-02-22 02:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know the answer as to if you are able to cope with seeing him with someone else. From what you said, it sounds as if you are still not ready. Know that whenever any two people break up it is normal to feel "weird" when seeing your ex with someone else, so most of us will try to avoiding doing this. Sooner or later, you will see your ex with someone else and will have to learn how to deal with it. Although, if dealing with this is too soon for you, then if I were you, I would not go to the party. Call the person who is having the party and just excuse yourself for not being able to attend. But remember, you cannot hide facing the truth sooner or later. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 02:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you wrote, it would not sound such as you have been that into him: "....he became continually warm and chilly with me... on no account became that large." So why could it make you "unwell" to work out this new female wearing his sweater? Is there a raffle that it only bothers you which you haven't any longer have been given any closure from him appropriate to why he blew you off? He became definitely rude that he did no longer communicate with you approximately any of this, yet apparently it rather is only the way he's. you basically tell your self he became no longer your everlasting boyfriend and which you basically might have dodged a bullet while he dumped you. extra ideal he dropped you while he did somewhat than 8 months right into a destiny marriage. you will recover from him with a splash time. superb desires.
2016-11-24 23:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a date as well.
show him that he is not the only one caplable of getting another person besides you toi go out with him.
yoiu never know, it might heop you to get over the fact that he is with someoine else if you are also with someone else. and also, you might end up actually developing a woprthwhile relationship with the person.
if not, oh well, try again later.
best of luck to you on this proiblem.
2007-02-22 02:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would opt to stay home a read a good book. Or find a date and go to the movies!
2007-02-22 01:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go alone. You'll need to have a friend there with you. A very good friend. And try to meet your ex with his new gf so it doesn't look like anything(Look happy and go with a friend).
2007-02-22 02:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hinata 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu already said for yourself that you have been doing well moving on..So keep up the good job pal!Dont get yourself into this mess.When you see them at the party,just act normal...Alright?:>anyway,you should get someone new too...
2007-02-22 02:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get determined not to show your weakness & for this start thinking his worst he has done to you.
2007-02-22 02:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.
2007-02-22 01:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋