We recently got in an arguement about her meeting another guy. I over reacted huge time and I should understand that she's just meeting him to talk. We've been together for 4 years and the guy just got out of a relationship about that long too. We recently broke up a few days ago too. Should I be worried or anything? Am I over reacting? She's never hid anything from me before and now I feel like she is. I still love her and I couldn't say that I've never met a girl before because I have many times. Nothing ever happend though. I'm pretty up front with her. So I'd hope she would be with me too... right?
2007-02-22 01:52:27 · 13 answers · asked by Ahmad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, a little confused. If you guys are still together, then tell her how you feel. If it makes you uncomfortable, she willl understand. She may not stop the meeting, but if you talk to her, she might be able to ease your troubled mind.
Secondly, if you have done the same thing before, what makes it wrong for her to do it? I mean, I know how you feel, I do the same thing all the time, but you really have to ask yourself why it is okay for you to do it and not her.
And, if you guys are broken up, then whats it matter, she has every right to move on.
But if you want her back, move fast my friend, girls like to picked up on the rebound.
Good luck, and be honest with her, and yourself.
2007-02-22 01:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it in a public place? And do you trust her? Did she tell you about it first? Come on man four years? How bad did you react before she broke up with you? Did she try to reasure you? If she would have wanted to leave you for him she would. She is grown and has the ability to discern right from wrong. Let her choose and then if it was bad freak out. Oh and never give ultimatums. I guess that is all for now. I may need this advice later so save it for me....
2007-02-22 10:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by david r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth be told here, get over her.
If she's seeing some other guy and she's now available and he is too(just to talk? i heard that one before too)
The fact that you reacted as you did is NORMAL.
I can tell you loved her because love without jealousy is NOT normal. I do not mean possessiveness. It's like that for real. Don't fall for BS.
You really should try to get over her, because if she can do this sort of thing,and you did get together with her in a more permanent way, you WILL end up miserable.
2007-02-22 10:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...tough question. If you love her then why did you break up?
She no longer trusts you after you over reacted right?
Do you have something to worry about? You are not longer with her. You could try to make it up to her and apologise. You realise your error. If you go to her and talk to her and you are sincere and if she still loves you then you can get back together if the decision is mutual.
Good luck either way. We always learn when we are in a relationship.
2007-02-22 09:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got out of a 4 year relationship (or are you still in it). What it sounds like is that you gf is helping this guy friend because he just got out of relationship. But i would watch it because someone, some where is gonna be the REBOUND. Someone is going to get hurt Just watch yourself, and give her the benefit of the doubt. Dont jump to conclusions because they will tear your relationship apart. give it time.
2007-02-22 10:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG take it from a girl, she is probably like kissing him every time you are not around when they are together. i think you should like try and get over the heart ache (with me lol) and forget about her just be friends. IM me ;) wink
2007-02-22 10:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by bouty btch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if u really love her then u have to trust her rite its ur fault and i like u bcoz u really loved her a looot i understand just make her understand how much u care about her. if she doesnt listens u forever then leave her bcoz she doent trust u
I WISH U ALL THE BEST NJOY UR LIVE
2007-02-22 10:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by laasya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U care therefore u concern , im sure she will understand that.. take it easy .If wish Ur relationship to be lasting.. do trust her.. No harm trusting her right?
2007-02-22 09:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should go appollogize to her first and if she doesnt except it then she's deffinitly with that other guy so you should move on.
2007-02-22 09:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by jellybelly94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends if she was trying to keep him a secret then shes cheating on you if not then try and tell her you learned from your mistake and you want work it out........she should have told you
2007-02-22 09:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by chaosshade16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋