everytime i talk with my bf about a problem he always says "but it wasnt like that or he wasnt trying to do that" why is he doing this? i know what i see and i know what something looks like. so why is he always saying the opposite of what something is? its frustrating and its making me always haveing to question my own judgement or second check something to make sure im right. i do i stop someone from doing this. ive had enough of him being in denial of everything when we both know the truth. what should i do? i have talked to him repeatedly about this and he continue to do it. but he only does this when we have a discussion about our relationship. plz help with advice.
2007-02-22 01:39:04 · 6 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a controller. Trying to make you believe his version of events even when you know the truth.
Personally, I'd show him the door. Think about it: do you really want to live the rest of your life like this?
2007-02-22 01:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a communication problem. He interperts things from his point of view and you from yours. If this is the case, then whenever he says, "but it wasn't like that", then ask him, "then how was it"...see what he says. Or it could be he is being evasive with his answers as a way to confuse you so that the truth will not be clear. Best you try to let him explain, you listen, blot out words that get in the way, and you might be able to see if he really is being truthful or evasive. I know my guy has trouble with getting what he wants to say across so that I can be able to understand. This just might be the problem with you and your boyfriend. Hope I have helped. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 01:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is "insecure" or have a "co-dependency". A psychologist is the best to answer this. He just doesn't wan to to be wrong, especially from a "girl". Try to go to counseling with him if you really want to make the relationship work. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 01:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by 235 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that but it's truly not like that when i say it. he probably says it cause it sounds like he doesn't wanna hear or know the truth. it might hurt him or something like that. I'd sit down and talk to him again to make sure everything's ok between you two.
2007-02-22 01:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ahmad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he is trying to make excuses for himself, everytime he botches up, and doesn't want to own up to his mistakes.
2007-02-22 01:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he's full of crap.
2007-02-22 01:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋