my boy friend has cheated in the past and i need to know if he is doing it again how im home all day and he is very good i have no way of knowing for sure he is very defensive when ask but the signs are all there help me
2007-02-22 01:24:28 · 20 answers · asked by vickann38 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like he is cheating on you. His interest in anal sex is a sign he is experimenting with someone else, and hiding his cell phone will mean he has Her number programmed in it. Check his cell bills and see what numbers he is calling. it should be easy to find out who he is cheating with. There is an offside chance it is a guy though, if he is interested in anal sex.
2007-02-23 07:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should def be comfortable and not have to worry if your man is a cheater. Obviously, you are worried...your best bet...find a man you are comfortable with and have no worries! Even if its goin to break your heart to leave your man....its the best thing in the long run! Think about the future! He got bored with you once and cheated....he may do it again if he gets bored! You should have got rid of him the first time! but i know it can be hard, especially when he gives you a sob story! You have to be strong! Is this the guy you want to marry? Always wonderin when he goes out if hes cheating or not? I never have to wonder bout my man...i know he is where he says he is...I'm always invited, but dont always go! So....when your man goes somewhere ask where...later on, show up there..he shouldnt mind, your his girl right! You will eithere catch him in the act or in a lie. So either way its not good! Just get him out and start fresh and new! You deserve better! Never let a man walk on you, he'll keep doing it if he knows he can get away with it! There is a man that will envy you and treat you like gold and you will never have to worry about! Go get em girl!
2007-02-22 09:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest, Try to flirt with him and have sex with him, occupy his time, if he respond in a positive way and take the offers on the sex almost daily for a week, then he is NOT cheating, no man can hang that long with and still look for another sex partner.
What I am trying to tell you is to get him to a point where he has no chance to cheat, he will be too satisfied and too tired. Since you are home, instead of focusing on if he is cheating or not, fix up the house, wear something sexy...be sexy..funny, do not ask where he has been, because that means you don't trust him. ....if you do these things and do not show that you have motives but to be loving to him and he still respond in a negative way and shows disinterest then chances are he is cheating.
Sometimes people lose interest in their current situation and has nothing to do with cheating, something to consider.
2007-02-22 09:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is defensive is a good sign that he may be cheating or it could just mean that he is still feeling guilty about the previous cheat and it feels like you throw it in his face every chance you've got
Just keep a close eye on his behavior you're a woman you'll pick it up, check his phone and computer, emails etc
Everyone deserves a second chance in life but it doesn't mean that they wont mess it up or even mean that they will mess it up at all
2007-02-22 09:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend. . . is a Friend who is of male gender. A Friend does not cheat, lie and cause mistrust in their friend.
Would you stay friends with another male or female person who causes feelings of doubt and mistrust in you ?
Why would a person stay with a ' boyfriend ' who brings up those same feelings of doubt and mistrust. This does not sound to be a very valuing relationship...friendship...love relationship.
I hope the two of you have had some very clear conversations already...and if these feelings are still coming up . . . Release yourself, value yourself and end the relationship with him. Love and care is not enough...there needs to also be value and trust.
2007-02-22 09:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you obviously havent gotten over the fact that ur dating a cheating bf and u definitely sound insecure..maybe its time to re-examine and see if hes that worth it for u to be giving him a second chance..and about finding out if he's cheating again, just follow ur heart..
after all, he's an experienced cheater, he'll know what to do so that u can't find out
2007-02-22 09:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him you should end the relationship. If he's cheating you owe it to yourself to get out. If he's not cheating but you're not able to trust him then you owe it to HIM to let him go. Either way sounds like this relationship is over.
2007-02-22 09:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's already done it, what's to stop him from doing it again? You shouldn't need a 2nd brain to know what to do next. He's a boyfriend, not a legal spouse that you'll have to pay to unload. Get real.
2007-02-22 09:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got an idea.. tell him that you wanna go out to dinner or something. If he cancels..(for some lame excuse,or you suspect that hes lying..) then follow him that day. You'll find out. and trust me girl..you probally might feel that this is wrong..like not trusting your boyfriend..but hey..hes cheated in the past,right.
so just follow him one day..and you'll find out.
2007-02-22 09:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by 258963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u suspect he's cheating and he's done it b4 then he is probably doing it now too---i would dump the loser (once a cheat always a cheat) and find someone who will treat you right and like the pricess you are
2007-02-22 09:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋