i am in love with a girl whom i love too much for her i left my country,my family even my job to get her.she is 9years junior to me.she also love me too much but she afraid of her mom to accept me.as her mom dont like me.but she promise me she will marry me after two years but its not possible for me to stay in another country for that long.so what should i do now please advise me.
2007-02-22 01:19:14 · 6 answers · asked by amit s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
our realation started this way.this is around more 1and a half year we introduce each other through internet.we use to talk each other everyday.aafter some time we started liking each other then we fall in love after 1 year we have decided that we need to meet each other so i planed to move to her country.then i move to her country where we meet each other.at the 1day we became so happy that it doesnt look like that day waz our 1st day.on the very 1st day we have physical realation.like this way everyday u useto meet eachother.oneday her mom came to know about us he started to tell her not to meet me.if she do so then she will not keep any realation with her.so she became very confused.what to do?to whom she will choose.when i asked her to marry me she told me she can marry me as she is just18+now.so i told her ok i will wait for u as long u can.but everyday problem arise.i even not getting any surity that after2 yers she will marry me aS she afraid of her mom too mucs.she also blaming
2007-02-22 02:00:05 · update #1
I'm afraid no one can really answer to this question...it is only you,my dear, who knows for sure whether she deserves you and your love or not. I can see that there are a lot of prejudices in her family, as you seem Muslim to me...am I right? Try to gain her mother on your side...and than decide whether you have a future with this girl or not...OK? GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-22 01:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by aleksa_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she. Is the 2 year wait because of her age? I think that the wait is her mothers idea. I would tell my daughter the same. If the love is there now, then what is 2 years then. If you love this girl, then you would understand her mothers idea. Don't push it either. It will make the mother distrust you even more. I don't no why would go through all the expense etc. for someone who you really don't no that well. Internet love affairs are totally different than a friendship that comes from seeing and being with someone and growing into love. If you cannot get an extension on your visa permit, then you have no choice but to return another time.
2007-02-28 06:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are destined to one another, it's not possible. You do love her but if she is afraid to accept you because of her mom, Do you really think that she love you??? Perhaps we can say Yes. But make up you mind, Wake up to what is the reality. Look dear, if someone loves somebody, he/she knows how to cross the river nor to make a bridge in between.
Assurances is one of most of the humans where searching for. She did a promise, but look! Promises can be a broken pieces. There could be barriers, more of it. You both had never resolved the problem between you and her mom, do you think another two years will help? NO! it could be worst as ever.
Analyzed what is the main reason why so? Your age gap? oh come on! me and my affiance is 20 years gap. It's not a barrier, Work on it and try to solve your problem with the both of you as possible.
You've done anything for her, now, don't you think she should also think and understand you and the risk that you've done for her, for the love that you ought to her?
Don't just depend on one person, you should also expect the both parties ( the positive and the negative results ) if then, maybe it's not her who is meant for you.
But i am not saying that you have to wait for whatever the result is. Move!. Make some moves that would help her to analyze. Perhaps, she is just puzzled right now or i don't know. If it seems that you can never solve the problem in between her mother, why don't you take her and prove to her mother that she will never regret in you arms. That is.. if you are that eager to win her heart. Nothing is impossible if you just believe!
You are the one who making your own happiness. If you want to be happy and make her happy too... go for the gold. Life can be too short, tomorrow might be too late for everything... Do what is the Best not just the Better.
2007-02-22 01:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this woman underage? Why is she so nerve-racking approximately what her mom thinks? you already comprehend what you ought to do. you do not have a lot of a call right here. she will marry you in 2(!) years?!? Come on, once you're gonna do it, do it. The mom will no longer love you in to any extent further in 2 years than she does now. This chick is blowing smoke up your a**. discover somebody who isn't afraid of their mommy. She's employing her mom's loss of approval as an excuse to no longer marry you. Odds are, she truly would not desire to marry you in any respect. Sorry. Time to pass back on your united states of america and are available across a actual woman who says what she means and means what she says.
2016-12-14 03:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you love her, but you have to do what is right for you. If you can't wait in the other country for two years then leave and go back home. Maybe you can keep the relationship going with frequent visits, but I have to tell you, if she's close to her mom, and her mother doesn't like you and she's already begging you off for two years, it doesn't sound like she'll come around and marry you sooner or that in two years she'll still be in your life. You have to go home. Good luck and sorry for your troubles.
2007-02-22 01:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her mother controls her now,she most likely will after your marriage. Better think about this logically.:-)=
2007-02-22 01:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋