Ok everyone has different opinions on this particular situation that people can be in. But I also feel that not everyones situation is exactly the same as people are different etc & u can't tell everything from a short paragraph!. Let me tell u my story and I ask you what I should do about it in the future. Me & this guy met 7 to 8 months ago, gelled right from the start right. He told me that he really liked me for my intellect, sense of humour and to have someone as a great companion. When we 1st met he didn't feel like he wanted anything too heavy etc. So that was cool, then we started getting closer and closer like best buddies as well as lovers. we started seeing each other even lived together.But during the process was being very indecisive and CONFUSED would be what I would call it! Every time we were together or movin on he would tell me that I was perfect him and that he felt that I was the one, but he is confused as he didn't know if he wanted anything serious or heavy!!
2007-02-22 01:09:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me tell you this man has pysically cried when I have planned to leave him due to the fact that he is so stupid!! he has rang off my work and mobile 100 times and has been round my house and tells me that he is confused, and that I am perfect for him, but he doesn't know what he wants. I have detached myself and am movin on, he keeps phoning me, and called me last night to see how my new job was going and sounded abit nervous!! tell me is he damn stupid for letting me go when he himself knows he is loosing something GOOD!!
2007-02-22 01:13:25 · update #1
He is confused, and if he doesn;t know what he wants, he can't know what you want from the relationship
2007-02-22 01:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would put him in the "OR WHAT" category. What the heck is he confused about if he tells you that you are perfect for you and he thinks you are the one? Sounds to me like he wants to hold on to you, but wants to be free to see what else is out there, which shows you made the right decision in dumping his sorry behind no matter how much he whines and cries...if he can't commit to you, don't commit to him!
What is good for the goose, is good for the gander...he is confused, just tell him you are too, so you BOTH should see other people to see how it turns out (that is, if you want to even waste anymore time on him).
2007-02-22 01:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably realizes that he was stupid and is trying to make amends. At least he is honest and able to communicate his feelings. He may still be confused, but seems to realize what he wants and that's you. It may be that he's offering the minimum he thinks you'll accept, but he's definitely 'smitten'. His own feelings of attraction may scare him. But you don't want him to committ b/c you insist....and will probably move on to that stage on his own. Give it more time!
2007-02-22 01:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It just sounds like you two rushed into this and got too close too fast. It takes time to get to know somebody, and it takes space to process it all so that your emotions and your intellect can bind into one cognitive whole.
What you are describing is somebody whose emotions are telling him one thing while his intellect is telling him something else.
And that's what you get for rushing it all.
2007-02-22 01:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This man is not only stupid. But he is sick in the head. I would get away from some one who chased me like this!
2007-02-22 01:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He want you to be serious with him, but he doesnt want the same to apply for his own actions.
put it this way, he doesnt want to be exclusive, but he doesnt want you to see anyone else....
You can do better! Or he would tell you he is serious.
2007-02-22 01:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,
run,run,run,run,run,run,run as fast and as fare as you can, he sounds as if he has problems.
2007-02-22 01:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON
2007-02-22 01:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and simple, LEAVE IT ALONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-22 01:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋