My nephew's birthday is in March and mine is also, my sister doesn't want to do a party for him but wants me to do his party at my house around my birthday and I said no. I love my nephew but I have my own kids and I can't spend the money to throw a party for my nephew when my sister should be doing it in the first place right?
2007-02-22 01:08:08 · 10 answers · asked by cutiepie81289 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't let your sister hang that one on you! How rude!!!! It's her kid and her party to plan or not plan for him. And don't let her make you feel that it's about whether you love your nephew - of course you do. She was just wrong in asking you to do this in the first place!
2007-02-22 02:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shirley T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on having a birthday party? If not then that is an excellent reason why not to throw one for you nephew. If you are having a party, why should you turn an adult party, if that is what you wish to have, into a child's party, or your celebration into one that is to be shared by another. And if she expects you to plan a party for him on a completely different day than that is even worse. Who wants to throw two parties in one month? It is major work. My eldest and youngest have their birthday's one week apart. It makes for a lot of work. It can be stressful, expensive and you are running around at the last minute trying to sort out the problems that always crop up. I don't think it is fair for them to share a party since I don't make my middle child share a party with anyone else. Explain to your sister that as much as you love your nephew that you believe that as his mother it is her responsibility to throw him a party. If she is daunted by that idea you can give her suggestions but you will not be organising it for her. That her son is sure to appreciate the effort she puts in planning the party. I do not know what her personality is like or if she is likely to tell her son he cannot have a party and blame the lack on you. If so, you must find a way to explain that it is his mother's responsibility and you did not want to take over her duties (that is if he is old enough for this discussion) and that he should discuss it with his mother. Do you throw a party for your own children each year? If not it is even more a reason not to throw one for your nephew. It could cause resentment in your own children.
2007-02-22 02:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Avril P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct. She's out of line to ask you to throw her child's party... unless there is more to the story that you are not giving us.
If she truly needs assistance and the child won't get a party otherwise, it would not cost a lot to bake a cake, order a pizza, and throw a tiny party w/ your kids and nieces/nephews. That would be cheap and much appreciated.
On the other hand, if she's simply being cheap, buy your nephew a present, take it to him, tell him you love him, and try not to let your sister's selfish, manipulative, ridiculous demands ruin his special day. Good luck!
2007-02-22 05:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a little gathering with your kids and the nephew. Or just take them to Chuck e Cheese. They always like that. You can do something inexpensive. It's a shame his mom is unable to a little something for him.
Your sister can't expect you to do her motherly obligations for her.
2007-02-22 01:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well doing the right thing always makes people feel good. And just cause your sister does not want to why should the little boy get hurt.
2007-02-22 01:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by 2hot4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is his mother, she needs to throw the party.
It's not your responsability.
I'm sure you are willing to help her throw the party for him, but it's not you that should be throwing it.
You are in the right, tell your sister to pull her head out.
2007-02-22 01:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you. plus its your birthday too. why would your sister make you throw the party for HER kid. i wouldnt of done it either. you go girl and happy birthday.
2007-02-22 01:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by i got excitement in my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah your right its not up to you to throw him a party why don't she want to do it herself?
2007-02-22 01:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your right. its her kid and parties are expensive and stressfull thats probably why shes trying to push it off to you.
2007-02-22 01:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by AMBER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS RIGHT
LET HER DO IT
2007-02-22 01:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋