Women - help. Why so many couples get divorced today?

Question

What has changed the last 10, 20, 30 years.
Are the men responsible (now I am nosy)?
or the women? the society? Have the roles been changing and why? Has it to do with globlized jobs.?
Many questions hope to get answered by SMART girls.

Whos (what) is to blame?

Answer 1

People should take time time to really know someone before getting married so quickly..and it is very true that you have to work at a marriage for it to succeed..too many couples give up so easily..affairs happen because he/she is greedy and selfish or there is a problem at home and instead of working it out they go off with someone else..vows should be taken more seriously and couples should try very hard at their marriage.

Answer 2

Christian principles used to be the bedrock foundation for marraige in America. Now that people have dumped God, they treat marraige like a casual, temporary arrangement (sometimes subconciously). Multiple partners get people used to playing around, and this makes it hard to stick with one person for very long. The whole marraige mindset has changed, and it's not going to get any better. Porn, premarital sex, and couples with no foundation for their beliefs all contribute to the problem. As far as woman's role in society, this may contribute. I don't really know about that or globalized jobs. Men are not exclusively responsible; I think everybody's lost a bit of romanticism over the last century. There is no Mr. Right, Perfect Girl, The One anymore in people's minds. Sad.
Good question, by the way.

Answer 3

Divorces are acted upon when one or both partners are unhappy. This could be due to all sorts of things, including work circumstances, home circumstances etc. Modern day life can take its toll on a couple, by putting work demands, home demands, children demands, money demands and the fact that some women are verry career orientated these days compared to many years previously. (Where her role would be a house wife, keeping the house smart, clean and tidy. Raising of the children. The washing, cooking, ironing, cleaning and sowing) But lets not forget the others, such has abuse, either physical or mental.... These all play a role in every couples relationship. Both people have to be happy or at least come to an agreement on such circumstances in order to maintain a healthy, long term relationship. You have to find a happy medium for both your sakes, and the relationship's.

Answer 4

both are responsible! In todays times marriages and life long commitments are a lot more fickle as its so easy to get a divorce or seperation - like in the old days - marriages were worked at and lasted for life!
Womens roles in society have obviously changed greatly in that we now have power that was never given before - which obviously gives us independance and ability to live without having to depend on a man.
Also nowadays I think its far too easy for people to associate with others due to the use of the internet - like even if you look yourself - loads of people - both men and women will openly admit they are married and looking for no strings attached fun!! I dont think either men or women are directly to blame - its just the choices that individuals make!
hope that was smart enough for you!!!!
xx

Answer 5

I don't think there is one single reason but there are a few in combination that I think have contributed to it.

A key factor is the consumerist attitude of our society. In today's Western society we all want more choice, more things, more money, etc. We are constantly being told we have the right to choose as well as being fed messages that everything can be bought, discarded, and replaced - from jobs, house, cars, education etc. With this mind it follows that eventually this will filter through into our personal relationships.

Rather than sticking with a marriage and working problems through people tend to 'choose' to discard and find a shiny new replacement.

This is also down to changing attitudes to sex and relationships. There was a time when it was considered wrong for a woman to have had multiple partners whereas now people see it as ok. So whereas before women may have stuck to a marriage because she had no choice, now it's not considered so bad if she decides to walk away.

I don't think that increased divorce rates can be attributed to any one thing or to men or women in isolation - it's simply a by-product of the turns our society has taken in recent times and until people realise that a disposable approach to everything isn't always the best answer, it's not likely to change.

People are too busy trying to be right or sticking up for their rights to take the long-term view. One saying I always bear in mind with regard to my relationship is 'is it better to be happy or right?'. That usually gives me perspective to figure if it's worth pursuing that argument or if I should just get over myself and opt for happiness instead!

Answer 6

I think a lot more couples get divorced because women have options now, to get out of less than satisfactory relationships. Historically women were trapped in unhappy or abusive marriages because there was no support for them. Now they have options. I also think we think in a society where everyone wants everything now and if it doesnt feel good then change it for something else. We have much higher expectations (men and women) than what our ancestors did. There are several reasons.

Answer 7

back in the day say when my gran was a newly wed her roll was to bring up the children and look after the house and basically do as she was told while the men went out and provided for the family these days you try telling a woman what to do and i guarantee you will have a fight on your hands lol most things are very equal now i think some men cant handle the fact that their not the main provider and security for there family's anymore understandable they feel bad about this as they have been since the cave man days i also feel that divorces are granted very easily these days maybe if there was a minimum years marriage was say 5 or maybe ten years before you are able to file for a divorce more people wouldn't rush into marriage so quickly

Answer 8

This day of age you don't have to put up with bad situations ie..Drink, drugs, violence,gambling etc. Years ago it was shameful for a woman to be on her own with children or pregnancy before marriage. The men would go to work the woman where expected to run the home. If the men never came home from work then so be it. But now woman don't have to put up with any of it, Today woman are strong and vise versa. So i would say it is down to society.

Answer 9

I think divorce is so prominent now becasue the the mindset in society. We live in a "chase your dream" society, and women are no longer willing to sit back and watch there world be what other people make it. I think everyone is responsible, men becasue they used to resist women being in control, and women becasue for far too long(the 60's and prior) women permitted themselves to be followers.
I also think the so common now, becasue it is too easy to get one. And by easy I don't mean it is a simple task, but it is easy to access, and not as difficult as it once was. No one wants to work at their marriage anymore. Things get tough ans so they want to cut and run.

Answer 10

I am not smart but my opinion is that couples just cannot stick it out anymore. Pressure of bringing up kids, working and running the house as well causes arguments . Kids misbehaving causes trouble between parents as well. People just too lazy to work on their marriages, the minute one does not do what the other wants [ both wants to be the top man ] the one will walk out and have and affair. Sex is the cause of marriage breakdowns as well, some men just cannot manage to have sex [ they are stressed at work, have problems at home ] the wife then feel rejected and turn to other men for satisfaction. Lots of reasons, but as far as i am concerned people are just to lazy to try and just give up instead of working at it.:)