I have this girlfriend and we broke up about 1 week ago on my birthday and I can't get over her, how do I move on?
2007-02-22 00:55:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
Getting over a boyfriend is never easy, especially if it was a serious, significant relationship. But it is always possible, if you really set your mind to it.
Steps
1. Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him. Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items - everything must go!
2. Commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself - I don't need him.
3. Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special somene. Having a new man in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't.
4. Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are.
5. Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again.
6. Let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time DOES heal all.
7. Just remember...there's a reason why he's out of your life! Be free!
Tips
* Try to avoid going to places where you and your ex used to go.
* Avoid the songs that remind you of him.
* Make a playlist with lots of angry songs on it - especially ones that remind you of annoying things your ex did. Whenever you feel nostalgic, listen to it!
* Concentrate on his weaknesses, both physical and personal. If he had ugly hairy hands, imagine them daily and think about how gross they were. If he was selfish, think about it often, saying things to yourself like "Man, *so and so* was so completely selfish...what a jerk. I"m so glad I don't have to put up with his egoistic, immature behavior anymore." You will feel like you dated a total loser.
* Do NOT contact him or let him contact you. You'll just go rushing back to square one. You might ask a girlfriend to help you stop talking to him, whether by reminding you or talking to you whenever you feel tempted. You can also write out long personal journal entries or letters (that you don't send) if you really feel like you need to get something off your mind.
* REMEMBER : Everyone has been through this & everyone gets through it. You might think you're alone, and it's too hard, but it will get easier and you will be happier.
* Expand your social network.
* If your conversations with him have made you uncomfortable, talk on email and save the conversation. Reading over the hurtful comments he has made will help you remember why you need to get rid of this guy.
Warnings
* If your new man is a 'rebounder', try not to hurt them too much, especially if they've fallen hard for you. If/when, you're tired of them, and your self-esteem is boosted, let them down easy. Don't make them work too hard to get over you!
* While anger is a natural and healthy part of the process, don't allow it to consume you, and be a new way of obsessing over your ex. You don't want to stay bitter forever.
* Your girlfriends will be willing to hear all about it at first, but no one likes to hear someone complain forever. After a few days, they'll be ready to move on, even if you aren't, and you have to be considerate. Don't take this personally!
Things You'll Need
* Friends
* Determination
* Time
2007-02-22 01:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 03:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you broke up on your birthday. Depending on how long you were together, it may be a while until you are totally over her. It has been my experience that it takes about half the time you were together before you totally feel over the ex. For example, if you were together 6 months, it will be about 3 months before you are totally over her. Go on a couple dates, or go out with friends a lot for a while to keep your mind off of her, and before you know it, you'll go a whole day without thinking of her and feel good!
2007-02-22 01:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Vakari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a better one. It may take a while but when you do, you wont waste much time thinking about your ex anymore. I don't think you ever completely forget about anyone that truly meant something to you, but when you really meet that special person that you will commit the rest of your life to you will realize that the others weren't right for you anyway.
2007-02-22 01:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by p_doell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
. . . Time . . .
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It's been one week. . . Time REALLY does heal.
With computers, cell phones, t.v. etc. I think people are becoming desensitized to feelings, not to want to feel feelings or to rush through uncomfortable feelings.
Allow your hurt to express and come out as it will. Feel it, allow the hurt. . . Through that hurt will come healing and also lessons, awareness, growth for your heart in the future.
The " How " of how to get over your ex is TIME. During that time keep busy...go to movies, be with family, friends, go for walks, places that interest you...all the while knowing she will keep crossing your mind. Next thing you know it will have been 3 weeks...then 8 weeks and so on and you will have healed from this.
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2007-02-22 00:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you look closely at yourself, you have ill feelings, hostility over the situation and resentment over a bad experience. The moment you can drop the bad feelings - catch yourself feeling that way and lighten up over it, see it in a different light, like it's just a wisdom producing experience to accept and grow from - you'll be free.
It's the bad energy we throw at things that locks us in and carries the past into the present. It's just another bee sting, another step in the stairway to heaven, so don't hate it. Learn from it.
2007-02-22 01:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a bunch of games. you were on the speaker phone. If they were really into you they don't need their buddies around to talk to you.
2016-05-23 22:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really liked this girl then ask her back out and maybe just maybe this time everythng will work out fo rthe best but if you really want to get over her then dont think about her and just move on with your life like find another girlfriend. one who is nice, pretty, seet adn caring and if you get to now her then you can forget about your ex and hopefully everything works out with this girl! good luck. the same thing happend to me except now i am going back out with my ex and everything is working out better now! good luck again.
sleeping beauty
2007-02-22 01:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by sleeping beauty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no magic solution....believe me when I tell you....time does heal wounds....It took me so long to get over my husband leaving, but one day I woke up, I don't remember the day, and said,,,it really doesn't matter anymore...
2007-02-22 01:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Join Skype, you'll soon forget your ex.
2007-02-22 01:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋