Okay, so i have sorta kinda liked this guy, lets call him Fred ( thats not his real name, but for sake aof privacy....). My best friend in the whole wide world, lets call her Hailey ( again not her real name ) just ot asked out ( first boyfriend sorta thing) i am really excited for her and really happy for her so i email her back asking who asked her out and sayin i was real happy for her and all of that. she emails me back and says its Fred. What do i do? My stomach dropped to the bottom of me ( i think that is the expression) and i think that i am jealous of my friend..... i know that i shouldnt let this thing get between our friendship and all that, but still...... should i tell her that i like him too??? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-22 00:51:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am only 14 soo.... ya.... i guess that the girl can be betty....
2007-02-22 00:57:21 · update #1
she gets angrey really easy.... so she might think that i am trying to steal him or something like that
if i do tell her what do i say?
2007-02-22 00:59:03 · update #2
i wouldnt get mad at her because of this... i am just sorta disapointed. he and i were sorta friends, and it was romard that he liked me....
2007-02-22 01:04:12 · update #3
well i emailed her about it and she said that it was all cool and i promised that i wouldnt be jealous and all of that, thanks soooo much for your help you guys, i cant pick a best anwser so i am just going to let voters decide, sorry!
2007-02-22 23:50:59 · update #4
If she is your best friend in the whole world, but you never told her, you have no right to be jealous or interfere with her happiness now at her first date with "Fred".
Would be a huge mistake to tell her, or lay claims on him now as it will make you seem petty and competitive; just wanting him because it looks like she has him.
In the future, if you have a crush on a guy, you need to tell your best friend about it so she will know he is off limits to her. If she truly is your best friend, she will turn him down cold if he ever asks and will not even tell you he asked (I never did).
Keep in mind a first date is just that...it does not mean he is or ever will become her boyfriend. He may go out with her once, twice, a week or two and decide she is not for him or vice versa. Either way, you have more of an inside view to what the guy is like and you may find out that it is a blessing in disguise that you never hooked up with him.
Boys and men come and go, but most of the time go, you friends are there for you always!
2007-02-22 01:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon-Let me tell you now...I can tell you are young and I can say I went through so many of these times growing up. I am only 23 but I remember being in your shoes. The best and only thing to do is accept this...you can tell her you like him too but if you never mentioned it before now you might seem like you are being jealousand crazy just because he likes her now. And if he likes her then thats that. You wouldnt want a guy who likes a friend of yours anyway and now you know he does. So as hard as it may be try to move on...there will be MANY more guys before you find the right one. You may not think so now but you will see. I promise!
2007-02-22 09:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i understand u being jealous and all, but i wouldn't be mad at my friend because Fred ask her out not her going after him. and the thing is she didn't know if u had a crush on him, so my point is that the little thing u had for Fred was only on ur side because obviously Fred wasn't interested in u. sorry u have to live with the fact that he chose ur friend and u cannot seriously get mad at her for that.
2007-02-22 09:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husbans were high school sweet hearts we got together our 10th grade summer. Before that we were friends and dated other people but never told each other how we felt. We eventually kissed one night and then things got kinda weird because we each were dating somebody. After a few days we talked about everything and gave it is shot so we dated and broke up once for a few days he relized he loved me and i loved him and then after we grauated we got married,been 5 ys know and it is great. I would give your (hailey and fred ) sometime things may not work out. My best friend dated know husband and i told her liked him and things were good no change there. It will all depend on how strong yall friend ship is.
2007-02-22 09:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by lacmcentire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I mean since you said fred you should have said betty, how can I take this seriously now? Fred and Hailey? What the hell is that?
2007-02-22 08:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well , she didn't know you liked him, because I'm sure if she knew, she wouldn't go with him.I suggest you tell her that you think he's cute , but be happy for her.You should have told her now all you can do is wish her the best. Sorry , i know that's not what you want to hear.
2007-02-22 08:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by xedilae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing someone that you like with esp your bestfren might not be a good thing huh?Know how you feel...really sucks.gotta same problem years back.Well this is just how i tackle mine,I tell my bestfriend honestly,and to tell her not to get things wrong,I wasnt trying to spoil everything but it just doesn't feel right.If your bestfriend really cares about you and your feelings,she will stop dating that guy.At least hopefully.But You gotta try it out.Good Luck with your future endeavours.
Signing off:
Dr Angel_love
2007-02-22 08:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, tell her that you like him to, but don't try to make her give him up or anything like that. and if she does giv him up, do not go out with him without her saying that it is ok, because she might be thinking that niether one of you should be going out with him if you both like him. but yeah, I would say that you should tell her that you like him, you never know, she mught just be giving him a chance so that she can have a boyfriend.
then you can always go about it the sneeky way, get a guy friend of yours to convince her to break up with the guy that you like and go out with him, then nobody gets thier feelings her, and you both have a boyfriend, and you have the one that you want, and she has the one that you got to go out with her, and you never know, they might really hit it off and become something worthwhile.
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good luck in this situation, you just have to be careful, and make sure that you don't let the guy take priority over you friend, unless you are really comepletely sure that you actually want to do that.
best of luck to you!!!!!
2007-02-22 08:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has just asked her out yes? Then i say tell her. She should understand. If u leave it and dont tell her it will eat u up seeing them together and it will come between ur friendship. trust me ive been there and done that and lost a good friend because i DIDNT tell her
2007-02-22 08:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there's nothing to worry about and lets face it frienship is always broken by love like anakin skywalker and obi wan's friendship(star wars) their friendship was broken because of anakins love for padme amidala so dont let love break your friendship you might never have friends again because of love
2007-02-22 09:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by taGaLOG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋