what about me (his girlfriend and the mother of his child)? Every time I try to talk to him I break out and argue, because I feel like he's not even trying to understand that I'm hurt! But he respects everyone else. SHOULD I LEAVE HIM?
2007-02-22 00:51:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well he respects women for respecting his mom and sis. but he just might respect his family.
if you want him to listen to you, grab his face by putting your hands over his cheeks and look him straight in the eyes and tell him what you have to say.
why do you argue with him? he's not a mind reader. he can't tell if you are hurt. if you are hurt you bring it up and talk about it.
no you shouldn't leave him because you'll end up leaving every guy you are with whenever you have a problem and you'll never get into a serious relationship.
learn to work out your problems
2007-02-22 00:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 03:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not putting the effort into the relationship like he should. Especially with a child! If you can financially support yourself and your child, I'd say go for it. He obviously values his mother and sister more than you and your child. Being said that he cannot respect you in any form, makes it a bad choice to have him living in your house. If he gets violent in one of these arguments, what happens to your child? Are you willing to take that risk? If you don't listen to the advice i'm giving, oh well. If so, good for you! Take a stand and do yourself some favors. Get rid of this jerk!
2007-02-22 01:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bunkah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
there is a bond between mothers,sisters,and brothers,that at some point even the girlfriend would have understand. i can only give you an example of what i am talking about through my family. my son is in love with a wonderfully beautiful girl and they have a child together.and when they first got together there were ups and downs she felt that he cared more for me and his siblings than he did for her, as she and he stayed together sh realized that he was not disrespecting her because of us but he was opening his heart to her and asking her to come in and be apart of our world the loving and the caring family that we were and are. now she is like family to us and because she waited to be invited into this covenant of love she to found that his heart was large enough for her and us not one over the other.
2007-02-22 01:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently his mother taught him she would not tolerate being disrespected. You have had his child without commitment...that's taught him you don't expect him to treat you with respect. Whether you leave him or not depends on what you're willing to accept for yourself. If you want to improve yourself and your life, you'll lock him out.
2007-02-22 01:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not argue with him, that's not going to help anything. i think you should take a break from him, and let him see what his life would be like without you. if he comes back to you, then, you both sit down and talk. you both need to figure out what's best for both of you to make this relationship work. without arguing because that's not helping either of you.
good luck
2007-02-22 01:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋