Okay, I have 2 brothers...1 older and 1 younger....Last night at dinner my parents started telling me about there Will and how everything was left to me and I would have to split it up. Then they started talking about being Cremated...is that okay with the Bible...really....I don't know....but anyway I got really upset because they are only 48 and 49.... I know they have to make it but it was still sad. I am really upset by all this and now I find myself crying randomly...When my Mom told me where she wants her ashs...I lost it....Now I can't stop thinking about it...my Mom is the closet person to me besides my little brother...She also mentioned that if they die before he is 18 he has to live with my Grandparents...I want him to stay with me...I am really upset and hate thinking about this...please someone tell me how to stop thinking about it and be happy again...I know its just life but I just need some pick me ups!! Oh and sorry this is so long....
2007-02-22 00:38:35 · 16 answers · asked by ~J*me~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe instead of crying you should be having fun wuith your family because if they die then your going to regret having cried when you were younger because you crying is not going to get you anywhere. You need to understand that one day everyone is going to die and that when they do they will be in a better place or whatever you belive in after death. Your parents need to talk to you guys about what would happen If they die because otherwise its going to come as a great shock when you find out you don't get your younger brother yor grandparents get him. And I know this is tough to think about because my bestfriends mom just died in a car crash. Its going to happen but you need to enjoy life so you don't have any regrets later. I hope I heled.
2007-02-22 00:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen to people of all ages and one doesn't have to be 99 to die.
I think it's very sensible of your parents to let their wishes known now, while they're still okay and that way prevent a possible family drama at the time when that's least appropriate.
Don't worry whether cremation is okay with the bible or not. If it's their wishes to have something done, you should honor it.
I can imagine it's freaky when your parents start talking about "when I die", but it seems like they're thinking ahead and simply trying to make things easier on all, should the worst happen.
2007-02-22 00:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to think about your parents dying.
Step away from the emotional aspects of it for now. You will face those later when the time comes unless you go first of course.
Look at this as a very smart thing that they did. I just recently went through the same type thing with my parents. They went and had their funeral arrangements made and paid for everything.
Your parents are trying to save you some hardship when/if the time comes. If you look at it this way, maybe you can see past your emotions. This will save you so much difficulty if it were to come to pass in the future.
As far as your younger brother goes, you should discuss that issue with your parents. Remember that it is their decision, but do express your feelings.
It is okay to feel sad, but not now....this is a glorious burden that they have lifted off your "future" shoulders.
2007-02-22 00:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really is best to be prepared for these sorts of things, but I agree with you it's not very nice to think of. I don't know about the bible but I'm sure it is ok as my grandma got cremated and she was a christian. It's awful to be faced with mortality when it hits home, but relax. What you have to think about is how you are going to make every single day a nice one so that when the time comes you'll be able to laugh about everything you did! Enjoy yourself it's the best thing you can ever do
2007-02-22 00:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by joanna b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in america right? ( any western country shal do australia inclued )
the average life expectancy is for the whole population we have a aging population, there is a very very good chance that your parents live to 100 - 120
you'll be thinking about your will before they are anywhere near dying, they have their whole lives ahead of them and so do you!
:) and i dont know much about the good book but i went to a christian school ( sucked ) but yea i cant remember hearing anything like that, whatever you are more comfortable with at the end of the day will be the decision made by you
2007-02-22 01:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tom O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it.. When there 89 and living in your house, constantly saying stuff like when i was young and that's not how to do that, do it this way... You ll soon think back to this day and say wow i got really upset for nothing...
Anyone can die at anytime, worrying or getting upset about it wont change or help the situation...
2007-02-22 00:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful they are planning ahead and not just leaving everything up to someone else to deal with when there death would be a shock and you have to try and figure out what they would have wanted. As far as your brothers living arrangements that is not set in stone but just a suggestion so to speak. I think your parents know what they are doing and you should respect them for it.
2007-02-22 00:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw you dont have to dwell on it dear! All they did was sort it out now that they alive so that youre not dumb struck whenever they do pass. Its not an easy thing to talk to your kids about so they must have discussed it with each other first and found that you are at the age to understand it. Dont worry ok, they love you thats why they did it. Just think about how much hassles they saving you in long term.
2007-02-22 00:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents are very wise to sit you guys down and explain all of this to you. They are taking percautions to make sure you guys are taken care of if by chance something happens. I know its weird to think about them not being here but can you imagine sitting your kids down and explaining all of this to them, basicly it had to be hard for them to talk about it also. But it was something that needed to be talked about. FYI talk to your parents about splitting everything up in the will rather then you having that job. What if all 3 of you want your moms wedding ring *the boys want their wife to wear it but you want it, or a watch your dad always wore* you guys should all openly talk about it and write it down!! :) We had a huge rift in my family when my great grandparents died... Just a suggestion :)
2007-02-22 00:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this seems difficult to take all in, but at least your parents care about you and want you to know about these things just in case.....wouldn't you feel even more stressed if they did die and you didn't have a clue where to begin? just take comfort in knowing that you and your brothers will be taken care of if anything did happen;) good luck and smile today;)
2007-02-22 00:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋