I recently met a girl (4 months) ago, she is 17 i am 27. We have quite alot in common with each other. We have gone out to the movies, gotten things to eat, have seen some shows in the city. I have also met her parents, who think i am a great guy. This girl and my self have never done anything sexual, just kissed. My question is, if your daughter or son brought home a guy or a woman 10 years older than them and you liked the older guy or girl would you accept them dating, or would you forbid your teenager to see them? Thank you
2007-02-22 00:29:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a career already, and i am not just looking for sex.
2007-02-22 00:47:49 · update #1
Well it matters what the guy was like, if he had his life together i wouldnt mind. I would definitally talk to him though, and let him know he had my blessing if i liked him but i would also talk to him about what he wants out of life, if hes ready for marriage and kids because i do not think a 17 year old young woman would be able to say thats what she wants right then and really understand what she is saying is wants. Does that make sence? You guys are in two totally differnt stages in your life, I think it can be done, I wouldnt call you sick, but just keep in mind she has alot of catching up to do and as long as your not pushing her or pulling her then i dont see whats wrong with that. BTW me and the better half have 10 years between us and we got together when i was 20 and he was 30... so i know it is possible but it takes a little bit of work and understanding :)
2007-02-22 00:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience some ppl would say the age gap is too big for it to work, however would I forbid them... I'd be a hypocrit if I did! So no.
Remember parents aren't dumb, they've probably (well hopefully) been around a lot longer than you both! So will already have figured out the boundaries they want between you and thier daughter! :)
If it was my daughter however, you'd be dead by now lol!:D
(Joking!)
PS: Just take your time respect her and in return you'll get that respect back from her and her parents. Women aren't just for getting some quick sex. Also make sure you're both compatible, like the same things etc etc... Good luck!
2007-02-22 00:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do have a teenager (16). Knowing the mindset of mine and that the maturity level is high I would not like it in the least that they were dating someone ten years their senior. Between their teenage years and late twenties there is a lot of life experience in which they do not have as well as emotional maturity that comes with relationships with older people.
I do know that in most states the legal age of consent for sex is 16. It is not the legal issue that I look at with the scenario in which you present. If my teenager came home stating that they were having a relationship with someone 10 years their senior I would NOT be happy. To forbid someone not to do something is usually an invitation for them to do it in spite of you. I would however, deter them dating that person in any way that I could.
My goal as a parent is to protect...not just physically but emotionally.
2007-02-22 01:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 year old son and if he brought home someone 10 years older I would like to think I would judge that person on their actions and behaviour toward my son rather than their age.
2007-02-22 00:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by puckbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some other girls doing this. My friend, 18 will be marrying a 28 year old next year. Her parents seem to have arranged for this marriage.
I also know a girl in my grade 17, who till recently was involved with a 26 year old. She broke up with him completely. I think her parents really didn't care.
2007-02-22 00:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by In-Sync 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
some parents have a age line that there teens have to go by when dating and depends on how strict that parent may be when it comes to dating. I for one feel that a ten year difference is to much. not because of the age bracket but because of the time line. the ten year old person is a more mature person than the latter of the two, he/she has experienced things that the latter of the two has not yet experienced. and just because they may have things in common now does not mean that you will have things in common in the near future.
2007-02-22 00:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent and there wasn't 10 years between us. But I was 15 and hubby almost 18 when we first started seeing each other. He never pressured me into anything, we were together for 10 years before we got married and he never pressured me to have sex before that. And my parents were worried at first, but once they got to know him they stopped worrying.
2007-02-22 00:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by trishay79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think forbiding a 17 year old works, but I would be pissed!
2007-02-22 00:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be more concerned if i were your parent
why?because she's still young,she may like you ,enjoy being with an "older guy,but needs some time to mature,i'd be afraid that you would get hurt and that as she matures she will want something different,if you continue to date her take things slowly,and don't give your whole heart,see how things go!
goodluck
2007-02-22 00:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
that relationship is illegal....... you can go to jail for a long time unless she is 18, then it is legal.
plus most married couples aren't that close in years. some range from 3-20. ideally you would want 3-10
2007-02-22 00:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋