My bf is getting an apartment and wants me to move in with him.?

Question

I have never lived with a guy before. No one in my family has. I'm scared that if I do my parents wont talk to me anymore.
He said he would pay all the utlities and the rent, but I would have to pay my truck payment, cell phone and insurance. I know he can afford this.
Has anyone ever been in this situation??

Advice would be greatly appreciated.


Thanks!

Answer 1

How long have you been together? How serious is this relationship? What would you have to get rid of or lose to do this (if you are currently living on your own, what happens to all your stuff?)

There's much to consider. I've had a bf move in with me but he traveled a lot so was only around Fri - Mon most weeks so it worked out great. I had time with him, and alone time.

It's not easy sharing your living space with someone...but that's also a good way to find out how compatible you are. Just make sure if you do this, you have a good backup plan for if it doesn't work out. Don't leave yourself without a safety net (alternative place to live, enough money to move out and get on your feet on your own again).

Good luck in whatever you decide!

Answer 2

First you should talk toy our parents. Explain to them that you really care about him and you don't feel you should marry anyone with living with them first (even if you dont plan on marrying this guy). But by living with him will truely test your relationship. If your paresnt love you they will understand, and if they love you they won't reject you from the family if they are angry with your decision.
If you know something like this won't sit well with them AT ALL, slowly transition a move into his place. Stay over his place more and more often and move some of your small belongings in, until your parents realize your an adult and can make your own decisions and that if you felt wrong about this you wouldn't be doing it. It will be tough for them to handle at first but they got to let you go eventually.

Answer 3

living with a guys changes everything....you can have the perfect relationship but there are things you never even had to worry about when you live togther....you will find out little things that irritate you about each other.....it could be cleanliness, decorative opinions, the way things are done, times for showers, lights to be on, music, tv time...even weird things like what kinda of milk you would buy ( he wants whole and you want skim) everything seems to stir up differences you didn't know you had.....plus you are together ALL the time when you live together......it is nice for a lot of reasons and is ultimately why you are there in the first place but it is really hard to get used to...to compromise the habits youve had all your life and try not to fight about everything.....good luck cuz it's almost like starting the relationship back at the beginnng....you have that much more to learn about each other but if you love each other you can do it

Answer 4

As long as you get along with your parents you should stay at home and keep the peace especially if your parents are the traditional type. My daughter went to live with her first boyfriend and it didn't work out. He turned out to be moody and she got in a situation where she felt trapped and NO motivation. It took her almost three years to break her rut and leave and do something with her life.
You are better waiting to know that your life is headed in a permanent direction with him and the time feels right and maybe even get him to marry you first.
Wait and let things fall into place rather than rushing major decision that you aren't even sure about.

Answer 5

living together without marriage isn't much of an issue right now, but if your family is a conservative type (like ours) you are in deep, deep sh*t hahaha... Well, the way i look at things, maybe you need to explain things first to your parents in order for them to understand you more and to open-mindedly accept the fact that that's what you want.
When it comes from paying the bill, well some people do have an assign and division of monthly statements to pay since you are not bind as one and each one of you are free to leave each other behind whenever you feel like it too... people make such division so that at the end of their relationship their won't be counting and regretting they invested (financially) to much to someone who would leave them behind... so everything would be fair... you have nothing to be regretful about nor he because both of you has invested the same amount of emotion, money etc...

Answer 6

What you really need to ask yourself is whether you honestly share space with a man that your parents obviously aren't too crazy about?

True...you might have more freedom in certain areas...but you might also be limiting your options in the event your b/f gets tired of you?

Seriously think this out before you pack your bags and leave home!

Answer 7

well, my sugar daddy, pays all the bills. he can afford it, if you know what i mean. plus, i get all the d*** i want too. so yeah, i'd say that's a pretty good deal! No ring on the finger means he can't tell you what to do. and at that rate 60% of all marriages end in divorce.

Answer 8

I would ask myself: Do I like him enough to live with him? Spend every day and night with him? If you have a good relationship, it shouldn't be a big deal. But I have known rocky relationships that go bad once they move in together.

If you decide you DO want to move in with him, talk to your family. Tell them that you really like/love this man, and want to move in together. If they know him and like him, they should respect your decision. It is your life.

Answer 9

who really cares if your parents won't talk to you. i mean they will forgive you. after all, you are their daughter.

there is a time where you have to move on from your parents. that time is hard for both you and the parents.

it is hard to think that you will soon have to pay the bills and support yourself. well you have boyfriend who cares and wants to move on with your live. if you feel he is the right guy for you, you should move in because you'll get used to living with a guy and if you marry him, you'll both be used to eachother.

Answer 10

you come to a point in your life where you realize that not all of your decisions will please both you and your parents. sometimes you have to choose. when i moved out with my boyfriend it took my parents a long time to adapt but they got over it. you just need to think about what you want with your own life. you parents already have a life.

ps just make sure whatever you decide you won't regret.