My father forced me to quit seeing my boyfriend and i gave in!Am 24 and he is 33.We love each other very much.Dad thinks that am not ready for serious commitments and that i have to stop dating him because he is not good enough for me and that if we get married i will never be happy.He met him once but,even though he is a very serious personality (my boyfriend)with a good job, my dad insists that he doesn't know anything about his family and therefore nothing about him.He said that if i insist dating him he will kick me out of the house and give me nothing as inherritance and he will never take me back.Am scared...I can't leave my family and i can't stop loving my boyfriend. My boyfriend says that everything my dad is saying is just to scare me off and force me follow his rules and wants to stay with me...but i know my dad best and when he says something he means it.i have nobody to turn to and am alone.HELP!!! :(
2007-02-22 00:09:32 · 13 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell dad what he wants to hear. If your BF respects you he will not come by the house . You can dad your doing things just not with who. Well good luck. You might have to be a little sneeky but that's always fun.
2007-02-22 00:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by sugerglaze28 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well as they say father knows best. But on a serious note here. If your dad dislikes him soooo much there is a reason. You say and talk like you do love him. And as such are you seeing the whole picture? You may be in lust NOT love. (NO I am not trying to be rude or funny) But either way either or both of these can impair your vision. You might NOT be seeing the whole picture. There IS a reason, and you really truly might not be seeing it. I if I were you, would sit down with my dad and talk WITH him NOT at him or DOWN, BUT WITH HIM. Get everything out in the open. By good job you might be saying this because your boyfriend makes decent money. BUT in the big picture does he have benefits, health care, vacation, holidays? ALL this matters in life. Maybe NOT right now, BUT it will. When you get older in life you need to have something to fall back on. DOES HE or YOU have anything to fall back on?
And YES I do have first hand experience here. I have a daughter now 20 years old. I threw her out 2 years ago. She has had NOTHING but LOSERS in her life. Most are by far worse than your boyfriend I am sure. Some in prison. She likes the bad boy type. Either way at the very least listen and think about what your dad is saying before you make ANY decisions. Good Luck. And also as they say. "You lay in the bed you make, so make it comfortable"
2007-02-22 00:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't start standing on your own 2 feet you never will. If you love your boyfriend & both are ready for a serious commitment then why did you break up with him? Fathers very rarely like their daughters boyfriends although the issue your father may have with yours maybe the age difference. However, your father threatening you is just a means of control & as long as you give in to him, then he will control your life.
Time to get some backbone & if you truly love your boyfriend then let your Dad threaten until he's blue in the face - it shouldn't matter to you.
2007-02-22 00:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not all men with serios personalities and a job are neccesarily good human beings. if yours is, try to reason out with your dad why he wants you to stay off your bf. if you dont get a good reason from him and feel forced become independent. now this doesnt have to mean you must fight with your daddy but that you find a life of your own. show your dad how you can be responsible and can make decisions for yourself. your father might be simply worried about you, esp. if he's been a nice loving father otherwise before. be patient and see things clearly . dont mess yourself up with cruel feelings. ask your dad why he feels you aint mature enuf and then work on those points instead of whining about it. tell your bf you need time to settle your own life before he can try impressing your dad. parents are mostly cruel but not always wrong. wink.
2007-02-22 00:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by fleur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A BACKBONE! Don't let your dad bully you around! Tell your dad it is your life and your decisions. Are you going to let your dad make your decisions for you for the rest of your life?
Your dad is just angry, he isn't going to take your inherritance away. Next time he tells you that stand up to him and tell your dad that is no way for a father to treat his daughter and tell him he doesn't love you if he feels that way. Tell him you don't care if he abandons you because you want a father that will love you no matter what.Two can play this manipulative game.
2007-02-22 00:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange for your dad to meet him. Why are you still living with your family at age 24 though? Thats why he is all up in your business! You should make your own decisions and move out and run your own life! Seems like your dad is just being crazy!
2007-02-22 00:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have bigger issues than being alone if your dad can force you to stop seeing someone when you are 24. Get a job and date who you want.
2007-02-22 00:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by MI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need some back bone !! 24 and being lead around by daddies purse strings ? move out (get a job first if daddy lets you ) time to tell daddy your 24 not 4 and get a life of your own date the guy and inform daddy your becoming independent of him !!
2007-02-22 00:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 16:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wanna make our parents mad, but love does crazy things. Who knows this guy maybe the one for you, but consider it yourself is this guy worth all the trouble, would i sacrifice it all just for this man, and in turn would this man do the same for me? Hold close that you're emotions are hard to change, If your boyfriend loved you he'd make sure you wouldnt be in hurt, if he loved you he'd wait for you. if he loved you he'd do all he could to change your fathers mind. If he loved you he'd show it.
2007-02-22 00:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋