I have been in this relationship for just about a year and things were cool at first. But no I have made some changes in my life (stepping away from habits and stepping out on faith) and my mate is not changing. I have asked that we take our responsibilities more seriously and divide everything in 1/2 (bills aren't much we live in a small aparment) but our car needs to be fixed. To kind of some this up...I keep having to have this converssation about me not wanting to be around certain things and activities and yet we agree and he continues to do it anyway as if he is trying to temp me to join him. I have been in the word more and reading and watches inspirational programs every chance I get to get my thinking process on track and everything and when I'm trying to have quiete time he turns on music and the tv like I'm not there. Mind you my nephew just came home from school and is now living with us. I so irriatated with him. So any advice?
2007-02-21 23:55:35 · 6 answers · asked by tasgilla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need to move on. This guy is only put there by the devil. The devil is always trying to tempt you.You need to remove yourself from the situation. The Lord will be there to guide you even when you think he not He is. Keep reading the word and praying. Praying is important. Pray for guidance and removal, and pray for your b/f. The Lord will show the way. Keep up the faith and believing trust the Lord, He won't steer you wrong. When I'm down I read Psalm 27. God Bless.
2007-02-22 00:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are handling this perfect so far.....you are slowly trying to make him see how his choices may end up effecting his life....you also sound like you have made a decision to better your life and for that you deserve a pat on the back it's a hard step to take but one that is well worth it....if he continues to do these things you have discussed its almost as if he is saying that he thinks those things are more important to him than his family......ask him? if he can't quit knowing that is what he is saying you gotta leave him.....rehab or some type of counseling can be an option but if he really wanted to quit he would have already admitted that he needed help with it.....you can't let him bring you down.....you can't let him distract you from improving your life the way you want to.....especially with a child living in the house now it has to stop because it isn't just his life or your life that are being effected it is the very impresionable mind of a child...this is not a compromisable situation anymore is a I can or i can't stuation and if he can't follow the rules he's gotta go
2007-02-22 00:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Amy Hizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he is contributing nothing but bad influences towards you then i think you should kick him out NOW!!!!! he is lazy and a bad influence on you and your nephew. he shows also no respect for himself or for you and your family. if you cant do this for yourself, at least do this for your nephew. do you want your nephew to grow up learning bad habits from a moron like this?
if he wont move out..then you leave him there and you move out.
do this for yourself and for your family.
by the way..are you going to marry this guy? marry a lazy man who's gonna be a bad influence on your future kids?
trust me he's not gonna change and you have no responsiblity in changing him.
if u dont leave now you will end up being like him and so will your nephew.
2007-02-22 00:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.
you have gotten on the right track with you life and you want you boyfriend to follow alone. sometimes it is not easy to be a follower. may be he doesn't want to tale this journeys just yet. if you want keep him as your boyfriend you might have to change some things about yourself to keep him. but if you want to continue you journey towards a better life then you may have to get ride of your extra baggage (the boyfriend) well that boyfriend in particular, and find someone who can except your spiritual journey that you are on.
2007-02-22 00:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that he is your mate it looks to me that he's not making a genuine effort to take your feeling into consideration. If this man can't respect your point of view and the changes you are making in your life then its time to get him up out of there.
2007-02-22 00:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you and what your trying to do with your life. we all grow up at one point. sometimes it take a while for the other to follow suit. which it sounds like he hasnt reached that point yet. you need to decide what is good for you. staying in a relationship for convience or because you know in your heart it will work out.
2007-02-22 00:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋