2007-02-21 23:46:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you've always had a good relationship with your parents before this relationship then I would imagine that a marriage without their consent would make you life very difficult, imagine holidays with a strained atmosphere. However if you truly love this person and you would never be happy without them and your parents really don't want to know then you might have a better life in the long run with your parents not being involved. However you have to think about why you parents don't approve there must be a good strong reason. Best of luck though
2007-02-21 23:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by joanna b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, Don't marry someone your parents have picked just because they picked that one. It may be the perfect person for you, but...
...you need to say, "I am the one saying yes or no. I am the one who will take responsibility for the success or failure of this marriage. I will not blame anyone else when problems come up. Why? Because I was the one who made the decision to go ahead with this marriage."
Do you know enough about that person to accept the match? If not, meet or at least exchange e-mails. If you have problems with something about him, talk to your parents if it is their suggestion. It is easier to get out of the marriage before the "I do"s than after.
If you marry someone else, then it sounds like a tradition you will be breaking. That is a lot to risk for a guy you are more emotionally connected with for now, and may not see unbiasedly.
Emotions change easier than Traditions.
Marriage is the biggest life changing experience (apart from dying). You want it to last many years.
Your family will be with you for all those years too. School friends loose contact with each other ... but family will always be willing to open the door. Break a tradition, and it may only be the backdoor.
2007-02-22 10:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by wizebloke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person loves you, and will care for you for the rest of your life, then no, your life will be anything but bitter.... and I'm sure as soon as your parents see how happy you are, they will come around. All our parents want is for us to be happy in the end. Good luck honey, hope it all works out in the end!!!
2007-02-22 00:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by feel_like 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never know. depends on your experience, about how well you know the persson that you want to marry and of course that a very important thing is also to follow your heart.
Think twice and make sure that you will take the right decission.
Good luck!
2007-02-21 23:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Vlado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on whether or not your parents cut you off and have nothing to do with you
2007-02-21 23:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, I will tell you yes. I am very close to my family and it was painful and obvious they didn't like him. That's not what drove us apart, but it will have an effect. My ex-husband was so aware of this, he just refused to join in any of my family's events.
2007-02-22 00:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm depends but most likley do what u want ok but be preapred for the down side ok have fun...
2007-02-21 23:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you life will be what you make it with or without your parents blessing
2007-02-22 00:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by arniesmum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. What are their reasons? What are their motivations?
2007-02-22 00:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by wcarolinew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of knowing
2007-02-21 23:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋