my friend said my grandaughter needed a hug and to be?

Question

told i loved her. I perhaps don,t show love enough having never had much, although they did their best they were ignorant. I will show more but find it diffcult sometimes. Just not used to it. never had a cuddle growing up enough attention and so getting use to it .

Answer 1

I too have problems showing my affection towards my kids. I love them more than life itself, but I was brought up in a family where you don't say "I love you" or hug spontaneously. It's hard to fight your upbringing, but the only thing you can do is hug your grandkids (and kids) and tell them you love them as often as you can. Eventually,it will become a natural instinct.

Answer 2

It does take time to get used to showing affection, but you will get used to it the more you show your affection. Take it slow. Touch her hand, pat her head. Give a light hug. The more you do these things, the more natural it will become over time.

There are other ways to show your love and that is by just being there for your grand daughter when she needs you and accepting her always - no matter what. Even if you never say the words, she'll know that you love her if you give her unconditional love.

Answer 3

Even if you're not affectionate just an occasional smile and wink will do the trick. In my family it is a cultural thing where not a lot of emotion is shown. Yes, some weren't very smiley, but I'll never forget my grandpa's winks. Hey at least they tried! I have to say I inherited this same trait. I have a niece and I don't smile at her that much. But I can't really be any different. What can you do?

Answer 4

Hi Denny,
I remember you from yesterday's Question and thank you for the 10 points.
Children can read between the lines better than we give them credit for. Playing the reverse psycology card by showing them love and understanding, can be viewed by the child as WEAKNESS.
Children of your grandaughters age are very quick at problem solving and know how to manipulate adults into getting what it is they want by any means possible.
By all means show her more love and attention, but be firm when you are being the boss. Always make sure that when you say no it means NO and there is no room for compromise.

Answer 5

You remind me so much of my mum. She wasn't brought up with hugs and tirades of "i love you" etc, if you couldnt feel that she loved you , that was your problem. But there were times , where a hug would of made me feel better, so much better, but she never hugged me. WHen i asked for a hug, she acted like she was giving me a kidney.

Hugs cost nothings and if you hugging your granddaughter will make her feel loved, then do it. Even if you feel uncomfortable, you make her feel sooo much better.

The sooner you get used to it, better your relationship with your grandaughter will be

Answer 6

if u never had love when u was younger u might think that its normal to not show much love.
make little challenges for urself- like if ur grandaughter does a painting priase her and give her a hug. try and tell her that u love her often coz she will feel loved off her "grampa"

Answer 7

I know it's hard to change the habits of a lifetime, but think back to when you were small--didn't you wish for a cuddle sometimes? Try to make things better for your GD than you had it. And remember, when you give a hug you get one back. Learn to enjoy expressing your feelings. It's certainly healthier.

Answer 8

Whats the question?

Answer 9

try giving her hugs and telling her you love her and when she starts to just hug you and tell you she loves you ..life will be great.

Answer 10

every one needs hugs !!! (they are remembered ) as not getting them ?? "a hug from me to you"