But we cant stop arguing.I am 16 and she's 40,we dont have a generarion gap,she's open minded.I am the best student at school,or anything that i do,i hang out with a nice crowd!But t's either my messy room,not wearing clothes she fully approves of(although she pretty much likes the way I dress).I know she is too concerned about me and she does it out of her love,but it is soul-out-wearing.....I know I am wrong at everything and it is my fault if we argue.I love her so much and I can't take this anymore.She and dad are the people who I would give my life for....
2007-02-21 23:19:52 · 11 answers · asked by Demi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take it one step at a time- Mom and Dad are there exactly for that; to love you, care for you and help you in every way that they can, its normal the feelings that you have- just sit and talk your feelings out with them, they'll appreciate it and you'll feel much-much better.
Remember one day you too will be a mom.
Take care- take it easy! ;~)
2007-02-22 00:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, your mother I am sure doesnt realize you are taking her advice as harsh criticism. Its all in the way you handle things. When she carries on too much you can say Mom I love you so very much, I know you are telling me these things because you love me, but Mom you are stressing me out and bringing my confidence down. Can I show you that I can handle things and prove to you that I can be mature and make you proud. I know a bedroom can get messy hey I am older then your mom and my bedroom can get messy but I do alittle everyday and then it doesnt become overwhelming and such a drag to clean. You are not wrong at everything, you may be wrong at some things but not all things, do not allow this to become a situation where you are going into a deep depression over it. You have to tell your Mom, Mom I feel I cannot do anything at all right to you. She has to know what she is doing to you. And one more thing I am sure she would give her life for you as well, Its hard being 16 your emotions are very passionate but rest assured its not done to destroy you. Its going to be just fine.
2007-02-22 07:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my mom soooo much also. However, she died last year. You need to simply sit down and have a very open and candid conversation with your mom. Express to her how you are feeling, and let her know how much you love her and value her opinions. However, their are some things that you feel she should just lighten up on. And then she will express her feelings and hopefully the two of you are able to come to a compromise. If not you are not yet and adult, and are living under her roof and she is providing for you. So just go with the flow, in the long run you will understand and appreciate why she has made the choices for you that she has. good luck and God bless****
2007-02-22 07:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it can be stressful, but you need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. You are right, she is doing it out of love. But sometimes we don't realize how suffocating that can be for another. It sounds like you and your Mom have a GOOD relationship, so she's going to understand your feelings. Sweetie, the thoughts we have about ourselves are very important. If you think negative, you feel negative. DON'T blame yourself and say that you know you are wrong at everything and it's your fault if you and your Mom argue! It takes two people to argue. By what you have said, I believe that your Mom would be saddened if she knew you thought "everything" was your fault. Just have a heart-to-heart talk with her, tell her what you've told us. We only have 1 Mom and Dad, and we never know what the future holds for us. So don't let a day go by without telling them that you love them and how proud you are to have them as your parents!!! My Mom and I have definately had our fair share of arguements over the years and gone for DAYS without talking. (We almost always talk daily on the phone) I'm now 46 yrs. old, and it wasn't until 3 yrs ago that I realized the reason we fought so much (pushed each other's button's) was because we are SO MUCH ALIKE. Please don't be like myself and wait soooo many years to be open with your Mom. For the past 3 yrs my Mom and I have been closer than ever, she is my best friend. Mom is now 76 yrs old and sadly I watch her age more and more. I will be LOST when she is gone*wipes tear*. (I lost my Daddy to Cancer when I was 34 yrs old.) If it's more comfortable for you, write down your thoughts and give them to your Mom. Trust me Sweetie, she will be grateful that you are reaching out to her instead of pushing her away! Much peace and blessings!
2007-02-22 08:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great kid.
If all you say is true, and you would give up your life for your mom, and dad then how about just giving up a couple of minutes a day to keep your room neat.
As far as how you dress, from what you wrote it is not really a big problem as your mom sounds like she is "with it", so instead of arguing just discuss it, and I am sure you will come to a compromise.
Your lucky to have such a great relationship with your parents.
2007-02-22 08:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old and we fight CONSTANTLY... I think sometimes that it is because we are just alike.LOL.. I made alot of mistakes when I was a kid and had a very hard life.. I am hard on her because I want her to have better. Its not that you are doing anything wrong sweetheart... she just wants you to KEEP doing things right.. Now go talk to her... (wink)
2007-02-22 07:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by megonjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demi...you could heal this rift in one minute flat !!!.....get Mum over to the pc to read your question....I am a Mum and Grandmum and your outpouring from the heart bought tears to my eyes....Please go get her, or even Dad...Trust an old lady Mum will breakdown when she sees just how much you do love her and how your fighting is affecting you....email me, let me know it is all fixed............I love you for just being so blatantly honest............you go girl, get Mum.....xoxox
2007-02-22 07:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're lucky to have a mom.
many teens don't.
so count you blessings and be patient with her.
try to see the best way to communicate with her so that
you can reason out these thoughts.
try being extra kind to her despite your misunderstandings.
buy her ice cream.
2007-02-22 07:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by j_timberLate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree.. talk to her calmly... don't act like a kid cos she will treat you like a kid.... try and make her trust you..
me and my mum used to argue CONSTANTLY.. about everything...
over the last year i have talked to her a lot more.. made her see things from my point of view without actually arguing about it..
and she is like one of my best friends now
2007-02-22 07:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a nice person you will do well in the future
2007-02-22 07:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋