this is getting annoying now my and my girlfriend just split up (on a break)and she went away for the week and i said to have no contact for the whole week exept she broke the rules (not that im playing by the book) and txt me but i dont know if she still likes me and im not sure if i like her (sooo childish i knw) but she begged me not to go into the army and be with her so i stopped for her and now i think she wants to be just friends and i didnt stop my career for ''just friends''(everyone knw that being friends just dont work unless u never really cared at all) so this is going to be like all or nothing no setting for second best but shud i just tell her way to go or try and fix things im not going bk to someone who dont want me
2007-02-21 23:15:18 · 15 answers · asked by kezz247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-21 23:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk to her a.s.a.p. tell her how you feel and find out once and for all how she feels. If you gave up going to army for her so you two could be together then you have every reason to know what is going on. Just be honest with her and make the whole army topic a part of your discussion with her. Make sure she understands that you changed your plans for her and that you want to know if you two are going to make it work or not. If not then move on with your life and do what makes you happy and if she wants to be with you on a real level then congrats. The point s do what you know is right for you. Follow your heart. Good luck!
2007-02-21 23:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear bout your break up mate. Well i think you should just let go of eachother. I asked my partner not to go in the army, i wanted him to stay with me and our kids but then i realised that if he really wanted to go in the army then he should. I would never want him to blame me for not going. I think you would blame her in the end because going in the army is something you wanted to do. In relationships its 50/50 but by the sound of it the both of you want different things at the moment anyway. I think your better of as friends because if anythings does happen between you both have had the chance to grow and realise what you really want from your relationships.
2007-02-22 01:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only one problem with your story. "Just friends just dont work unless u never really cared at all" isn't a true statement. I was truely in love with a girl, and after we broke up, we remained very close friends. Don't say everyone knows something, when there are people that don't feel that way.
2007-02-21 23:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already said it perfectly.
You tell her that it's all or nothing.
She is your girlfriend or she has NOTHING!
If she still wants you, she will know that this is her last chance.
And you are SO right about the 'just friends' thing. Women and men use it as a backup in case their other relationship fails. Or they just want you to wait around until they decide whether or not to give you another chance.
2007-02-21 23:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the Army.
When u get back if it was meant to be then it will happen, but the break from the relationship will do your mind good.
Follow your career, fight for your country & learn new skills, it will make you a better man.
Good luck
2007-02-21 23:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by K W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, i think she's keeping you on hold, she sees you as a back up plan. I agree with you, don't settle for second best and definately don't waste your life on her. Go and join the army and don't let her hold you back.
Hope this helps you
2007-02-21 23:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by xo-Stacey-ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just want sex!
you've already answered your question, you're not all that interested.
so follow your dreams and stop using her as an excuse not to join the army.
if you have to ask others if you should be with someone, then you shouldn't be with them.
do your own thing!!
2007-02-21 23:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should waste your time on someone who isnt sure, unless it is what you want. If you feel strong enough about it you will persue her.
2007-02-21 23:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by chickyboo222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life - do what is best for YOU. If chasing her is what you think is the best for you, then do it. If moving on is best for you do it. Be an adult and make a decision.
2007-02-21 23:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up' get real' join up, = it may make a man of you!
2007-02-21 23:20:08 · answer #11 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋