I am trying to get over this saint of a girl that I fell high over heels and in deep deep love with. The girl is out of my life for good now and lives in town with her boyfriend. It has been one year since I got my heartbroken from unrequited love and I am still heartbroken. This isn't just any average young heart break, this is really severe. I am going through agony amounts of emotional pain, I cry everyday and it's like living with cancer, only it is an emotional cancer. The is absolutely unbearable and I am really hurting so badly. I have tried things A-Z to try and treat this. I have met consultant psychiatrists, therapists and counsellors but that didn't help one bit. I do alot of exercise and mainly go for long walks but that hasn't worked one bit. I have tried different diets and really good medications, but that hasn't worked. I dream alot about my lost love which upsets me. I have become completely sexless, I don't talk much and I have a paralised emotion of emptiness.
2007-02-21 22:30:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm so sorry to hear that you are hurting soo badly. It sounds like your whole life has been taken over by this pain. I think you need to try and focus on something else, i know this is probably easier said than done, but by going on walks by yourself, you are giving in to this pain and focusing on it. Also by changing your diet etc you are also focusing on it as you have made it change the things you would normally do. I think you need to try and live as normally as possible, how you did before you met this girl. take up some new activities that involve others, spend time doing things you enjoy. Focus your mind on something else. I know the pain you have is awful, but by focusing on it your making it worse than it actually is. you need to get on with your own life, meet new people, do things you enjoy. i know it's hard now but in time it will get better. don'tlet this pain take over your whole life anymore! i hope you find some happiness soon! goodluck!
2007-02-21 22:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start thinking about life before this girl. You can't sulk forever. Life is too short, get yourself back into the game. Find an activity that will not only enhance your social life, who knows it may put you in a position where you meet your soulmate. Never give up on love. She obviously wasn't the one. Volunteer to read to students at a local library, volunteer to teach adults to read, something where you are focusing on someone else.
2007-02-21 22:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how to help except to let you know that every one gets hurt like this. I was rejected by someone, and it made me feel very alone and undesirable too. All I can tell you is that you need to find a way to LOVE YOURSELF MORETHAN YOU LOVED HER!!!
My advice for healing these wounds, is to be very selfish for a while and take time out from love and sex to discover your own self. In your free time do only things that make YOU happy, no matter what they are, and take your time healing and finding ways to be satisfied with your life. Avoid doing things that make you feel depressed or left out. Don't allow yourself to be out in that position, at least not now.
I know it's hard to beleive, but even though this will take some time...eventually you will feel worthy of love again and will take the right steps to finding the right girl for you. She is out there somewhere, and even though you don't know her yet, don't give up on her. You will find her when the time is right. It never hurts to say some prayers now and then too. Even if you are not religious, praying can be very good therapy, It will at least help you say what you really want out loud,(sometimes it is different from what you thought you wanted too) and helps you focus on how to solve your problem.
Right now though, be all about making yourself happy and content and don't be afraid to be a little selfish about it. You need to be happy to find ways to love yourself.
This worked for me and my fiance both. We found each other on Yahoo Personals, after we each had been taking some time to heal after a lost love.
Like I said before, the right girl is out there, just don't give up on her. This girl you are now mourning was not the right one like you thought she was. So, maybe when you fantasize, try to fantasize instead about the mystery girl who you will someday know and love, and what you want her to be like,instead of the girl who didn't work out for you.
Take care of yourself and keep finding ways to smile. Things will turn around for you. You'll see.
2007-02-22 02:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry you are in such pain. The only good advice I can give you is to realize that she doesn't want you. She is sleeping with another man now. She is having sex with someone else. She has completely disassosicated herself from you and you mean NOTHING to her.
With that in mind, you need to ask yourself WHY you want to be with someone who is not worthy of your sincere and loyal love. And when you sincerely ask yourself that question, someone else will appear and you will thank God for the gift of a decent and loving person worthy of your love.
2007-02-21 22:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love can hurt. You need to realize that if you did or do love her you need to let go. If the love you claim is so strong then that means you want them to be happ. If her boyfriend makes her happy then that is what she needs. If you still want to see her ask her out for a friendly dinner. just know she has a boy friend and respect her boundries. Love means wanting them to be happy she wants her boyfriend. Good luck. if that does not work chocolate helps!!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 22:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Emma R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try finding a hobby or volunteer activity that takes up your time. It will help you to forget about your pain. Also, writing about your feelings in a journal will a good idea.
2007-02-21 22:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the pieces and move on, go out with your friends and stop being cooped up, you need to stop living in the past and start living in the here and now they say you can't move forward if you live in the past, so look ahead not back.
2007-02-21 22:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 11:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by matzen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i rili sympathise wth u but u got to try harder life is not all about suffering u got 2 go on with ur life she did anywai.try 2 see another side of life its so sweet n so short.
2007-02-21 23:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a nice dinner cooked by my chef,served in my main chamber, by my log fire and washed down with a fine wine.thats the way to fix things.
2007-02-21 22:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋