My girlfriend is extremely attached to her past. She still has her ex-boyfriends on her MSN and networking sites, she still updates them when she changes her phone number, and even emails them from time to time to check up on them. She says she considers them "special friends" that made her happy and helped her, even though their relationship didn't work out, and that she only loves me.
But still i am not comfortable with this, I have explained this to her, but she says its not fair for her to lose friends just because I’m being jealous.
Am I? She even told me once that one of her ex's is better looking than me, how can I not feel insecure about that?
I love her a lot and she is very caring for me, but this situation is making me very sad. Any advice?
By the way, I’m 22 years old on my second relationship, she's 23 years old on her fifth relationship.
2007-02-21 22:22:33 · 8 answers · asked by mad_c_programmer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forgot to add, sometimes one of her ex's invintes her to parties (some even formal, black suit & prom dress) at his university, and she goes with him (its studen't or invitation only so i just stay at home and weep). And she always says "I know this upsets you but i'll make it up to you somehow".
2007-02-21 22:46:52 · update #1
Also, if I have any email/phone contact with any of my friends that are girls (i don't have contact with my Ex, but i do know girls that are friends with me) she burns up in jealosy. I can't even be polite to her own friends. Double standards suck.
2007-02-21 23:17:45 · update #2
I would say that it depends on how much you care about her....you have to draw the line somewhere but you don't want her to feel like you are being demanding! It is possible to be friends with an ex and not have romantic feelings...just let her know in a non threatning way that it effects your emotions and that it hurts you when she says another man is better looking than you!
2007-02-21 22:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by GodsGrl4Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a little trust in your relationship and in her. If you dont trust her then maybe you shouldn't be going out with her. You call her obsessed, when it seems like your the one with the problem. Who cares if one of her boyfriends is better looking than you, she's with you for a reason and you should feel good about that. She's just writing e-mails, not having sex or going on secret dates or even hanging out with other men. Just relax and trust her don't be so insecure with yourself. You should feel good that she's with you and no longer with any of them. It's common for people to feel jealous of friends of your significant other, just don't let it get you all upset.
2007-02-21 22:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty natural to be jealous in that situation but I think that she is showing a very mature and healthy attitude towards these people. I still consider one of my exes one of my best friends. Things didn't work out as far as the relationship but it doesn't stop me from still seeing him as the great guy that he still is. Maybe you need to trust her a little more. If she says that it is you she loves, believe her.
2007-02-21 22:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's awesome for her that she was able to remain friends with people that were once very close to her....as long as they are just friends don't take them away from her....and even though she says he's better looking than you there is a reason they aren't together now and there is a reason she is with you instead.....she YOUR girlfriend and she wants to be with YOU....trust her and hope that if you guys don't work out you can be just as lucky as all her other exs and be able to maintain a healthy friendship afterwards.....it is a really hard thing to do but shows the real friendship those people had....
2007-02-21 22:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Amy Hizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-03 07:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you. Why should it matter if she keeps in touch with her friends? You should be happy that she is honest with you. She could have still kept in touch with them and lied about it to you.
You happen to know all the truth because she trusts you and so she told you. Second lover or fifth lover, why should that matter?
Whats important is that she is in love with you now. Work on that rather than worry about her past. Her past is her past and you cannot do anything to change it.
Either you accept it and love her or lose her some day because you don't want her to have anything to do with her past.
her past makes her what she is today and the fact that she loves you means she moved past it all.
Grow up and learn to accept her love with the past.
2007-02-21 22:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're jealous, dude. That's all there is to it. And you two have different personalities and you can't accept her way.
2007-02-21 22:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by August lmagination 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok why not u do the same...then see how does she re act on this
2007-02-21 22:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by rozy al bakish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋