O.K. Having a few problems at the moment, and dont know really how to start.... have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year,and we were friends for ages before that. It just seems that although I really like her, every conversation we have lately, she just says something that winds me up, or almost says something that she knows I'll argue with....it never used to be like that before. we dont seem to communicate very well in conversations, i ask questions, and she answers with an answer as if I answered a different question. We had problems a few months back, as she went on the pill for us to start having sex, we're both virgins, and it was difficult for me to know what I was doing, hence she got angry at me, when I didnt know what I was doing. All through our relationship, she doesnt start any kind of intimacy, its always me, i always start the kissand she says its cos shes shy. I bought her flowers for v.day, yet didnt get as much as a card. yet when i ask her, she says shes happy!
2007-02-21 22:04:54 · 10 answers · asked by dafadf a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your different from her. Maybe its time to move on.
2007-02-21 22:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Take it easy. Ur relationship has just hit a very significant stage. Initially wen u started going out, every thing was a-ok, u guys were in tune with each other's feelings and felt really comforteble together. Well that';s bcos u were virtually enamoured with each other and were still sugar-coating everything.
Right now, u have gotten to a point where u can clearly see each other's faults and that's y u r always fighting. Dont throw in the towel cos this stage is critical and will lead u in2 a more deeper understanding of each other and strenghten the bond between u guys.
Wen my bf and I had gone out for about a year, we started fighting over every lil thing and it looked like the thing wasn't gonna work. But this lasted for only a few months. I'm glad to tell u that we r still together after 4 years! Right now, we argue very little, we know what to expect of each other and there are no pretenses. It happens in most relationships and ur ability to weather the storm says how well the relationship will turn out in the end!
Best of all, u guys have been friends for a long time b4 now... like my bf and me. Good! Its just dat right now u r seeing new sides of her u didn't see as friends. If u love her, be the man and try to be the calm one when there's a fight. Don't pressure her. Try holding her when she calms down after a fight, try to talk about everything (even sex) - communication is key! Also, be verbal in ur expression of love - very soon, she'll be singing love songs in ur ear.
The best way to teach someone is by example. Believe me, I'm a witness to it. Goodluck!
2007-02-22 06:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by giness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will probably come to you as shock and I am very sorry for that, but my opinion is that your realtionship is coming to an end. I wouldn't try and explain all the reasons, because you actually mentioned them all.
My opinion is that you should end your relationship, try and do it in a 'friendly' way (if that's at all possible, at least have friendly intentions ...) and you'll save both yourselves valuable time.
Sorry if that's not the answer you expected, but I think that's the kind of situation you're in.
2007-02-22 06:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by tomes12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sorry but i think she just irrittated with you. Just wanna keep an eye on her incase she's cheating because I went through something similiar to this and my ex was cheating so maybe your'll should just sit down and discuss all the problems in the relationship and one more thing watch her reactions.
2007-02-22 06:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by clxgolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure her. I had an ex like that and it ended badly. Don't be pushy. Back off. She might not want to be in the relationship anymore so that is why she starts the arguements. I know I wanted my ex to break up with me so I started arguements, mainly because I didn't want to. I didn't work so I eventually just ended it. Girls like to lie.
2007-02-22 06:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a break for awhile, maybe go out with a few other people. Then reevaluate your relationship.
2007-02-22 06:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it had been a year then, you both could overcome problems simply by understanding and intimate talks ... no reasons for doubts or confusions ... girls could be nervous certain times ... talk frankly and good luck.
2007-02-22 06:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes going through P.M.S. Give each other some time and hopefully it should be fine.
Good Luck.
2007-02-22 06:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Hmmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it . You wont know what to do until your 45 and by then you will be to old to use it. Happens to all of us.
2007-02-22 06:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her exactly how you feel.lol
2007-02-22 06:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋