the guy i have een with for 4 years is the perfect man, we have shared alot together, travelled the world. i love him but do9n tseem to be attracted to him any more. i dont want to loose him or hurt him or loose what we have together but i feel thats its the end, i just want some one to tell me how they have been through a major break up, do they regret it? my friends and family are extremly close to him also.
2007-02-21 20:26:39 · 15 answers · asked by lou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do know how you feel i was going out with a girl for three years and we weren't arguing or anything like that its just the original attraction i once felt for her was gone and it got to the stage when i started resenting the fact we where together in the end it's best to just tell them there is a lot of hurt there always will be in a situation like this and sometimes i do miss her but deep down i know it was the right thing to do hope this helps and good luck :)
2007-02-21 20:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Edward W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard ending a long term relationship, especially if the reasons are not beyond sufficient. If you both do not understand why you are separating, one (or both) might feel a huge emptiness in their life that they will never get answers to and it could take years to heal. It is worse when you will still be close or be in contact with each other's family. For me, I think it is best, when a relationship ends with less-than-perfect reasons, to be able to never talk again because healing will happen quicker that way, but if you still see each other often, or each other's family, you will constantly think of each other.
Obviously you two have done a lot, so perhaps look for things that you never get tired of or try to experience something totally new.
Regardless, either make it very clear, for both of you, why it is best that you separate. Take into consideration that it would really hurt him if you just said "I'm not attracted to you anymore" or "that we never do anything anymore" because you have done a lot together.
I can't offer anything else.
2007-02-21 20:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to leave the most perfect guy for you for some unknown feature. How can you hurt him by leaving, but do not loose him as a friend. I think you want the bread slice paste with butter on both sides. Go and write on a paper all the nice things on the one side, and all the bad things on the other. The one that have the most counts can help you with your decision. Attraction is one thing, and lust are another. Don't mix the 2.
2007-02-21 20:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Blacksabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your man know how you feel? If he's the perfect man, then give him the chance to spice up your relationship. Try looking into his eyes for more than 3 seconds, and see what you feel. That usually helps me when I'm in doubt. This relationship isn't about your friends and family being close to him, it's about you, so try not to involve them.
Of course you are attracted to him, in some ways. Give him the chance to see how your feeling, and I'm hoping that he will think of ways to improve. He loves you too, so work on this problem together. Love is deeper than looks and attraction. He's your best friend, so share with him.
2007-02-21 20:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember always to do what is best for you! You have the added difficulty of your family and friends being close to him which of course makes you feel guilty.
End it so you can both get on with your lives, it will get worse the longer you leave the decision to walk away.
Whats to regret if you are not happy? You can only make the decision that is right for you unfortunately it will hurt other people but they will get over it in time.
2007-02-21 20:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by toymod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 05:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to end it you still love him, don't break up something good for nothing! Relationships sometimes go through stages; I know I'm in a relationship of six years!
It takes hard work and good communication from both parties. Tell u what, talk to him and tell him how you feel and maybe you get a solution!
2007-02-21 20:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to break it off and be scared, then to stay. It's not fair to you or to him. It seems as though your relationship has turned into more of a friendship than anything else. You have to forget others and think of yourself and of your guy. Yes, it will be awkaward, but that's life.
I got out of an almost 2 year relationship. I did miss him and the bond that we had, but it was time. If something is not going anywhere, you owe it to yourself and to the other person.
2007-02-21 20:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dana P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart...One of the biggest mistakes we can make is doing what everyone wants us to do..In order for you to be happy you need to end this in a friendly way and continue to want to be a friend with this guy as you have nothing against him, you just don't feel a strong love...Your family and friends are not with him like you are...
2007-02-21 20:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in that conditions i think it quiet complicated.. your family are already close to him and you have a quiet long relationship... it will be back to your bf.. if he can understand your situations and the reasons and he really loves and cares for you, he will agree for the break up.. but if he can't do it so i'm afraid your friendship with him will also end.. but of course if you really doesn't attract with him anymore it will be the best way.. hope the best..
2007-02-21 20:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋