i went out wit a girl for about a year and a half. we temporarily separated in the beginning of december b/c of numerous arguments, however, we agreed that we were going to get back together. a month later, i found out by myself that she was with someone else around the time we separated. i was hurt of course because we both loved eachother alot. Worst of all she used me for that month and lied to me about being with someone else. I dont only feel hurt but i feel so stupid and cheap. i never though she would do this. Now she is with someone and i am all alone. I hate her for what she did but i still feel some love for her. i know its wrong, but i cant help but keep trying to contact her and bother her. I have all these emotions going crazy and i feel really depressed. i dont know what to do anymore, i cant deal with this. she obviously moved on but i cant. What should i do. im really hurt and i need help. if anyone has any tips please let me know.
2007-02-21 19:25:11 · 11 answers · asked by Jaime R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow this was my same situation with my ex boyfriend. I'm not gonna lie to you it is very hard anyone can say get over it ..its easier said then done. You just have to be strong and keep away from her as much as you can. They come back for affection,money,sex...etc.. don't let her take advantage of you. The best thing is to be with your friends and fill that gap with someone new. It took me two years to finally open up and see what kind of a person my ex was. He kept coming back and filling my head that "he loved me... we will get back together soon and eventually get married". Two years of what seemed like the never ending circle of head games and me being lonley while he is with someone else. But I eventually saw what an ugly person he was inside...if they honestly loved you they wouldn't put you in such pain. If she does come back you cant blame her for doing all these painful things to you because it is you who allows it not her. It's very hard and its gonna hurt for awhile but in time you will heal. I dont regret those two years of waiting...because the person I am seeing now not even my ex boyfriend can compare to him. Im the happiest I've ever been and everyone can see that. Believe me when I say there is someone out there for you someone better that wont hurt you but love you ...in time you'll heal.
2007-02-21 19:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by +((VaL))+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal and it won't go away overnight. You spent a great deal of time with this girl and developed deep feelings for her. Don't regret the experience but stop wasting time calling her trying to understand why you're no longer together and trying to reconcile. She's where she chose to be. Think of it a blessing. You're free now to search for a new girl. A better girl. Next time take your time and really get to know the girl before commiting only to later find out her character is weak and she doesn't value you enough to be honest about what she really wants. If she really loved you she wouldn't have broken your heart and chose someone else. She would have been real and try her very best not to hurt you regardless of where her heart led her. If she used and has left you feeling stupid and cheap..why do you still want her? You're giving a lot of energy to someone so negative and pointless to what you really deserve in your life. Don't hate her. Thank for setting you free to make someone else a wonderful boyfriend. When you're ready to move on and open yourself to someone new she will certainly be jealous and want you back but she'll never have you again, know that and never let her come back with some wack excuse. She's no longer allowed to be in your life. Take your strength from whatever you have to and stand up for yourself. Be strong and walk away from this situation with your dignity and a learned lesson.
2007-02-21 19:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals a hurting heart. You just have to keep telling yourself you're too good to go through anything like that again. You're going to still love her because she was yours for a year and a half. You should just work on yourself as a person and try to keep busy that way she isn't on your mind. Everytime you think about wanting her back, just imagine her having sex with another man while you were being faithful.
2007-02-21 19:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you really can do is give it time and eventually you'll feel better about it. What works for a lot of people is just staying busy with their hobbies or interests.
2007-02-21 19:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say she loved you as much as you loved her. She Used you and you are talking about tips to forget her if i were you i would have had a girlfriend and kiss long enough right front of the ex.
Good day
2007-02-21 19:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Atace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel greatfull that you only lost a year and a half. it could have been much worse trust me. you are free now so go have fun and let her rot in her own depravity. the best revenge is to live better than them, and forget about them in the process.
2007-02-21 19:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is gonna sound really mean but.. the only way u can.. is to rebound to someone else. wen u got another person by ur side. that pain doesnt seem to so bad. its kinda concealing it instead. but u should get over her because she was a cheater.. it'll take a while but yea..
2007-02-21 19:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Iracela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try getting out with the guys or something, go get drunk and screw some chick, your forget about her sooner or later, sometimes its just a waiting game, just try to do as much as you can to keep you mind off her, other girls are normally the best thing for that
2007-02-21 19:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Terry C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is to forget her. If she loves you she wouldn’t do that.. Don’t focus your attention to her. Get along with your friends and find another girl..Have fun! You deserve to be happy...
good luck.. =)
2007-02-21 19:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her, peel off her skin and wear it, and screw the guy she cheated on you with. Then, whip out your penis and scare him so bad he has a heart attack.
2007-02-21 20:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by flak_monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋