I was twenty one and he was thirty three. He used me for sex. He did not say that exactly. But, he said he called a helpline and could not be in a relationship right now. He said it was him. Did he use me? I think he used me for sex. Help me please.
2007-02-21 18:35:22 · 28 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Brooke,
How does that work... isn't sex a mutual thing? When he was "getting" sex weren't you getting sex too?
What do you think two strangers spending time with each other is suppose to be about anyway?
Used you for sex? Do you know how that sounds? Sounds like you normally sell sex and he stole some from you for free. Do you think sex is something you sell? God, I hope when you had sex with him, its because you wanted to have sex with him, not because you thought you were making some kind of investment.
You really need to rethink your atitude about sex, or your going to spend a lifetime "feeling horrible".
2007-02-22 00:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...a helpline? That a new excuse. Lame but it's new. He might've been using you for sex but, look at it like this. He's an idiot who is 33 and has to make up excuses because he's too cowardly to just say why he really wanted out. You're better off without him, honestly. We've all been used at some point. All of us. We've all played the fool too. It's a part of life. The best thing you can do is ignore him, don't ever get back with him and move on. Karma has a way of catching up with people like him. Do your best to forget this lame-o and find a real man.
2007-02-22 02:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he was a typical run of the mill jerk.
don't let this ruin even one more moment of your life, you have done nothing wrong ou went into the relationship with the best of intentions, put it behind you - think of it as a bit of learning curve.. people (especially some guys) CAN be asses - BUT not all of us! :c)
don't let it affect your future relationships though.. remember the saying "love like you've never been hurt" - the next guy who sweeps you off your feet is NOT that 30 something loser, and he could just end up being the guy of your dreams and the love of your life, don't let him slip past because you're too busy worrying that MAYBE just maybe he's going to end up just like the other guy... the say lightning doesn't strike the same spot twice.. ;-)
Good luck with everything, hope you have an amzing life! ;-D
2007-02-22 02:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You enjoyed yourself while it lasted, don't take it so hard. People will come and go out of your life for your entire life. Next time spend more time getting to know people to give them time to prove their true intentions. Go into relationships knowing that things don't last forever..forever is rare. He wasn't the person you were meant to spend the rest of your life with if he's unsure about where he wants to be or if he can give your his full self. Take it as a blessing. You're now free to date and explore this world for someone who truly deserves you and won't leave you with regrets. Never waste time on what you did wrong, it's pointless. Take it a lesson to take your time and think things through in the future.
2007-02-22 02:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.... if you think he did....... then you are probably right in that thought........ sad isn't it?
btw
what are you doing with a guy who calls a helpline? he has more problems than using you for sex if he is calling a help line.... you are better off to move on and don't give him another thought
2007-02-22 02:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did,but baby girl get used to it.There are alot of guys out there that doesnot want a relationship but just sex.You have to decide in a relationship if you wantthe sex and if you're willing to wait and see if it will go farther.Dont feel too bad though use this as a learnin eperience and bewre in the future.
2007-02-22 02:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lynboges 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry sweetie. I think that maybe you're right. He's much older than you and I think the majority of the time that's the case. Do you feel like you had anything in common with him? Do you think he was interested in you? If the answers to these questions are no then he probably used you. Sorry again sweetie.
Matt
2007-02-22 02:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by matchoo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that he used you for sex... The helpline was just a bad excuse !!
2007-02-22 02:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...did he use u? OK...he had sex w/ u for 2 mths and then he dumped you...GEE that's a tough one...I don't know. SNAP OUT OF IT GIRL!! YES he used you! Don't feel bad...it happens to alot of us...even us hotties. I started seeing a guy 6 yrs younger than me..on xmas nite...we hung out for couple days..then he went back home 3-4hrs away. Then the following weekend he came back...we spent time together...he went back home after weekend...he said he would call me...HAVENT HEARD FROM HIM...OMG!!! I was in TOTAL SHOCK..moreso than I was hurt..because the 3 previous girls I knew that he dated and even married one ...were ALL UGLY...SKANKS..and I am a HOTTIE! OH well ...it's his loss ..NOT MINE!
2007-02-22 02:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think he did. Did you guys do anything besides sleeping together? Did you have some sort of emotional bond? If not, then he probably did use you, so move on and you will find better men..-good luck
2007-02-22 02:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋