I asked this earlier..
There is a guy I like, who I've like for over a year now. We work together and see each other everyday. Nothing has happened between us, but I sense a strong mutual attraction. We're both single.Usually, things are really good between us-we'll slightly flirt, he'll be open and joking with me, etc. But once in a while, there are days when he acts completely cold towards me. Like today...when we passed each other at work, we didn't even make eye contact with me or say hi, which he usually does. Then when I saw him later, he didn't say more than 7 words to me the whole 90 minutes we were around each other. He was open and really friendly with everyone in the room except me. It seemed like he was deliberately trying to avoid me. When I left he, he didn't say goodbye or anything.
Should I give him a dose of his own medicine tomorrow, or continue on as if nothing has happened? I know I didn't do anything to make him act this way. Is he testing me in some way?
2007-02-21 18:20:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. I can tell you this because I was in this EXACT situation. He could either be intimidated, or he's afraid you're losing interest. So he's trying to fight back with a hard exterior, perhaps unintentionally. What you need to do is talk to him, and tell him that you have feelings for him. He will come out, if he IS single, and he loves you, he will come out.
2007-02-21 18:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very possible you made him jealous the day prior. Now hes trying to give you a taste of your own medicine (at least so he thinks). If you acted "friendly" with another guy, you could have twisted him the wrong way and it pissed him off. Don;t do it back to him, thats just childish.
If thats not the case, why would you want to be with a guy that has mood swings for no reason? Thats difficult to make work, but so are work relationships.
Ask him to hang out outside of work, its been a year, I think its time.
2007-02-22 02:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's awkward surrounding you, be the one to ask him for movies or dinner or maybe after hour drinks. Get him to loosen himself at other environment. Sometime, it does help to get him to relax himself.
There is no such thing waiting for the guy to make the first move. If you think that both of you got mutual attraction, put it out to test. Some guy felt insecure in themselves, and that's why sometime act warm sometime act cool. It's their way of protecting their masculine ego.
Share your time & thoughts with him. Get him to share things with you. Make him comfortable by sharing jokes & the things you enjoyed and vice versa. Do not force your thinking on him, cause it might scare him off easily.
Good luck !!!
2007-02-22 02:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by stormymy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has mood swings. I am not sure he is worthy of your attention. If you have known him for over a year and nothing has happened then I am not sure it ever will. Usually office relationships are a bad idea. If things don't work out then problems could arise later in some cases loss of job. Consider this before becoming involved.
2007-02-22 02:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh. that's very unfortunate =[
my advice would be NOT to give him a dose of his own medicine. you should never stoop down to another person's level to get back at them.
i know it may seem unfortunate, but you should try to never get involved with a coworker anyway. if for some reason things end between you two, the rest of your experience at that job will be horrible for the both of you.
the best thing to do would be to stay friends with this guy, but nothing more.
2007-02-22 02:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by tinyjackblack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be your friendly self, he may really like you, but may be having conficting feelings about romance in the work place and how that may affect his career. Good Luck. I would'nt play games like avoiding him, but mabey after work talk to him(or invite him to go somewhere after work) and find out how he really feels. You won't really know unless you talk to him. You have nothing to lose by trying!
2007-02-22 02:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by seven-11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over a year of flirting ? sounds to me as simple friendliness from this guy.. unless you are on elementary school I see no future in this situation..
2007-02-22 02:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by JeanMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's into you. He has you thinking about him, too. Good job him. He's probably too shy to ask you out and he's waiting for something to happen to bring you together. So, just ask him out or something. See what happens.
2007-02-22 02:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by someone or other 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS man has feelings 4 u.
2007-02-22 02:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋