Opposite attracts I already got that, but why do most women rejected and ignore guys who treated them with respect (whether he's fun and got confidence or not), and love and respect guys who treated them like a piece of crap? It seems like women who really WANTS and LOVES nice guys are very scarce. If that's the way god planned it, then so be it. More money and freedom for me.
P.S.- No, I'm not a virgin. Yes, I had been in the relationship before. I just want a really nice, honest, and truthful answer. (if possible)
THANK YOU (^_^)
2007-02-21 18:16:29 · 29 answers · asked by Earache My Eye 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my experience, when a woman is only attracted to the bad guys it's because she has some problems and is used to being treated like crap so she goes for what she knows. Also a lot of the bad guys are controlling and abusive so a woman is afraid to treat the guy in any bad way. Normal, healthy women are attracted to the nice guys. There are just a lot of unhealthy people out there.
2007-02-21 18:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I will agree that this does happen often unfortunately. Many women are attracted to the wild kind of guy. I made this mistake and have regretted it ever since. I let the good guy go. I do believe the older the ladies the more they appreciate the nice guy. Hang in there. The right lady will come along and it will be worth the wait!
2007-02-21 18:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jodi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Deception, controlling behavior, and cheating -( all classic bad boy behaviors in modern parlance) - just happen to have given males a (genetic) survival edge for the first 3 to 5 million years
Chicks crave that big "chemistry" - it's their crack cocaine of life and it flows not from some rational belief ("Johnny's a nice guy") but from some innner feeling, basically their DNA genetic programming - which directs them toward males most likely to increase the females odds of genetic survival going forward
Chicks THINK (and actually believe) they want noncheating, nondeceptive, noncontrolling "nice guys" -( actually inferior males in evolutionary survival terms) - however chicks REACT AND RESPOND to bad guys
Males generally need and desire lots of sex with lots of women, and that desire flows from their evolutionary roots where seed spreading males had superior odds of genetic survival at a time when many or most females died in childbirth
Females via their DNA ( such evolutionary baggage which cannot simply be wished away) - will generally be attracted to males most closely fitting the evolutionary norm
Women treat bad boys nice because they offer the promise (illusionary of course) of genetic immortality
2007-02-21 18:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by JET99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooo, good thing you added 'most women' after your headline ... lol. Even 'most' is a lil' over-board. I think most women prefer the good guys ... it's just that you've been having a problem finding those women. If a man treated me like crap, or didn't show me the same respect I gave him ... his furry butt would be on the curb. I love the nice guys!! :)
2007-02-21 18:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think because the bad boys with their loud nature are all out there for everyone to see and admire while the good guys are rarely ever seen and lost within themselves. Bad boys give off the image that they're tough and all that(dare-devils) and good guys r seen *** the quiet, "nerdy", and sometimes too sweet to be true. Society is too wrapped up in bad boys that the good guys get missed and most girls end up hurting in the long run because they could never find that good guy wherever they are.
Where are the good guys??
2007-02-21 18:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by xoticeyez1975 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a psychologist or anything, but I always figured as people we're attracted to what we can't have. It goes for guys too. How many people when given the choice date a) the person who will love you and worship the ground you walk on or b) the person who distances themself and acts like they don't need you. Most of us choose b. I choose b. I can't help it. Maybe none of us can. Person a) is usually boring and person b) is a challenge that we think we can win. Sigh, such is life.
2007-02-21 18:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay well i think i know this one..
SOME woman treat the nice guys bad to you know wip them into shape... To be more over protective of the woman or just maybe the girl likes the gu but she likes bad guys to and wants both so she treats him bad to try and make him even more tough or just plain stronger...Woman like men who like to put up a fight just for the woman.
And the reason for the treating bad boys nice,,,you can figure that much out cant you??
2007-02-21 18:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by mandy_hottie78 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can blame Taco Bell for this phenomenon. Most girls like tacos from Taco Bell. These women realize that the nice guys will all wind up going to college while the jerks tend to end up in the service industry.
For this reason they tend to date the jerks because they'll be able to give them employee discounts or even free food .
2007-02-22 00:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by The Man 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
what women? any particular type of woman? when you say bad...and nice. considering there are most likely a small percentage of 'bad boys' and there are more women than men in most places. It doesnt last if a woman is being treated badly.
nice will always win in the end...so statistics prove. peace
2007-02-21 18:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as guys find the whole porn/bad girl/popular rebel kinda thing attractive in girls, we find bad boys are often TOTALLY HOT! Plus, they're sorta mysterious, like there's something going on inside them and their past that no one knows about and you can't help but want to find out! I mean, they're bad for a reason! Also they seem to have more friends than that nice geek, making them more likeable. There are other attractions, but I can't list them on here! ; )
But geeks are in at the moment, so go buy yourself a sweater vest and a cute cap!
Oo, plus, the bad boys are usually less likely to be gay or bi. Also, can't be seen dating a nerd...which are usually the nicest ones. Us girls are soo shallow!
2007-02-21 18:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bambi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋