I have this problem with my security, I'm very insecure, I fear things alot and have alot of doubts about things, and this mostly takes place in my relationships. I've been going out with this guy for over 6months, it's taking me some time to get use to him and trust him, I see him just about every weekend and during the week when I am at work, I want to call him, but I don't want him to think I'm being clingy so I hope he calls me and sometimes when he doesn't I get scared of our relationship even more and feel more insecure, he's been unemployed for 5 months and he's had difficulty finding a job so I spoke to my boss and we got him a job he started there this week, I'm just afraid that he's gonna lose interest in me....maybe coz I do tarot reading online and the cards today told me that there could possibly be a break-up in a close relationship, it's making me scared, I'm seeing him tomorrow and I'm afraid that he will change his mind... eeek!
2007-02-21 18:15:14 · 20 answers · asked by Sheepless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
therapy. don't look to the cards for advice on your future. you have a brain for a reason.
2007-02-21 18:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
reading that was like reading a story about the first few months of my relationship - and the only advice i can give you is DON'T do the whole "if you don't want to see anymore that's fine" or "i know you don't really like me, the way i like you" all that negative stuff really ruins all the amazing moments that happen in those first stages when you are both getting to know each other, you're learning each other's cute little quirks and everthing is new and exciting - that is the most beautiful part of a relationship - please just enjoy it all the worrying in the world isn't going to change the future so don't let it ruin the now... Insecurities are normal, we all have them - just don't let them rule your life.
As for the tarot card thing - all they are sweety is pieces of paper with pretty ugly pictures on them - absolute loads of rubbish.
2007-02-22 02:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first thing: Breathe. Relax, I seriously think you are worrying over nothing. Tarot cards? Pfft.. random coincidences. You should be careful, because you are making something out of nothing. Newer relationships can be stressful, but you have to enjoy them. Spending your time worrying about all of those things will end up being the reason the relationship ends. You don't seem to have any problems between the two of you, but your insecurities will be problems themselves.
Just enjoy the time you have with him. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't have strong feelings with you. Relax and just enjoy what you two have.
2007-02-22 02:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Alene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, have you had any bad relationships in the past? If you have, that may be an obvious source of your fear.
Really, if he hasn't been displaying any of the usual signs of an unfaithful partner than there is nothing for you to worry about, if he isn't distant, or hasn't suddenly become too happy around you then your relationship is most likely fine.
And try not to put your beliefs into tarot cards, I have seen many things in my days, many things you would believe to be impossible, and I find tarot cards to be a mere joke.
2007-02-22 02:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont plan a strategy with this guy. Do whatever is in your heart. If you want to call him, call him. If he doesnt feel the same way about you, then no big deal. You will find the right person for you.
Dont believe tarot cards. they are alway vague enough that if they do come true you will be like "WOW it really works!!" and if they dont come true you will be looking for an answer somewhere else, maybe in someone elses relationship.
2007-02-22 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tarot cards don't know everything. If you are worried about your relationship, the only person who can set your mind at ease is your partner. You have to stop taking things so much to heart. Not everything that is said or not said is a major catastrophy. Take a deep breath and tell him how you feel and that it isn't his fault, not anything he's done, you just need some reassurance. If he cares, he'll tell you so. If he doesn't, he'll tell you that too. Either way, you can stop obsessing about it.
2007-02-22 02:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't believe those cards! I'm telling you from experience they are nothing but trouble! Go with your heart! If it happens to get broke, I am so sorry. On the other hand you may discover that your heart holds the truth! Pray about it! God will find a way!
2007-02-22 02:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy dearest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't base your life on tarot cards. you create your own life. forget your insecurities. if you lose him for any reason, accept it. life is like that. nothing is perfect in this world. what is important is how you live your life. be yourself. follow your instincts. if you want to call your bf, call him. you have the right. better still, have friends outside of your job. maybe you need to loosen up a bit. your'e too high strung. learn to relax.
2007-02-22 02:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he will leave you. anyone who can't get a job by themselves is a loser and losers leave relationships. plus when you work with your significant other it only leads to a bad ending. plus if the tarot online cards said so it must be true...
2007-02-22 02:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jesters Deadd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa girl, you gotta calm down. Don't worry, talk to him about how you're feeling. Tell him of your insecurities, he will listen. Bring up the idea that he might be losing interest in you.
2007-02-22 02:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, Just stop worry!!! Don't worry about something that did not happen yet or even not going to happen!!!! Love and enjoy the moment you are in!!!!
2007-02-22 02:36:11 · answer #11 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋