I am having 3 yr old son, he is too naughty, sometimes when we deny to accept his demands he beat his mother?

Question

I am having 3 yr old son, he is too naughty, some times when we deny to accept his demands(say he want ice-cream/chocolates) he lose his temper & starts to beat his mother, some times while playing also he beats his mother or to me also. By Nature he is shy, can any one answer me how can i control his temper?
In the School (Play-Group) also 4-5 months ago his compliants were there that he is not having his attention, but now his teacher told me that form last 1 month in the school he is having his attention and his progress is good,
How should I tackle his tamper, and increase his attention in the study??

Answer 1

my nephew did similar things - he is not quite as old as your son (2 1/2) but when he didn't get his way he would bite, kick, but worst of all he was smart enough to wait and catch you off guard and even punch you in the nose(let me tell you it hurts - lol) it is a very touchy situation but what we did with him(we all had a hand in raising him) is say no and tell him to stop - make him apologize and if he did it again we would set him in timeout , which would make him more upset than smacking his butt or something - main thing we figured out is that you have to be determined and repetative with the discipline for the temper (terrible 2's seem to last forever is what i have heard) as for the study time or learning - try to get him interested in things they do there - maybe certain activities they do there - do them at home also - get it so he really enjoys them - I'm not an expert but I know that it is a pain to have one around that acts like that - Good luck!

Answer 2

Never, Never, Never allow a child to hit their mother, this teaches them that it is ok and they will continue to do this when they get older and they will also do this to their girlfriends and their wife, daughters, all women. You must stop him from hitting your wife, if you have to send him to his room and not permit him to come out until he has appologized. Sometimes a good swat on the butt will teach him that it is painful when you hit someone and if you spank him everytime he hits her, he will learn very quickly that he should not do that. If you want to increase his attention span keep him away from the TV and encourage books. If you read to him, this will teach him to sit still and to pay attention. It will teach him to finish the book, so he knows how the story ends. Let him pick out the book. Sometimes books with flaps that they can open to see what is inside or books that they can feel , like a furry bunny, and the book has a soft piece of fur on the bunny. Or for the sand it has sand paper on the page so the child can feel it. These are all good teaching tools. Music is also an excellent way to teach children.

Answer 3

When he starts to lose his temper you need to wrap your arms around him and hold him (Not too tight) with his arms down to his sides and tell him gently that he needs to calm down and do not let him go until he does. DO NOT give into his tantrums. When you do he will know that he has won and it will just make things worse.

Answer 4

my brother is 6 and does this. just stop them when they hit u. bring them to a time out when this happens.