I have no problem going up to a girl and trying to start a conversation, but I'm not the type of person who could keep a conversation going, whether it being entertaining or just keep it going period.I learned that I am one of those people who have to process something in their mind before they say something, which result in my shyness. Any advice on how I could keep a good conversation going with a member of the opposite sex.
2007-02-21 17:30:35 · 17 answers · asked by Matt D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just relax and talk about music or movies. be yourself
2007-02-21 17:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make a list of 20 questions you can ask any girl, then study the list. Whenever there is a dull moment in the conversation, ask a question. Girls love talking about themselves.
Here you go:
Whats your name?
Are you from here?
What do you do for a job? Do you like it?
Where did you go to school? What degree?
What do you do for fun? Would you rather watch a movie on a friday night or go to a party?
Play any sports? Any instruments?
ETC
Make sure to listen to the answers, you can build a million questions off of one answer. But its not an interview, try to keep your questions close to the topic, and ask them in a "I'm just curious" type fashion.
2007-02-22 01:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one is boring when you really get to know them. I'm sure you have a wonderful personality. You just need to find a way to let it out. What is a good strategy i find that works very well is just imagine yourself your with the person you feel most comfortable with in life, your best friend, your family member. Remember the comfort you have around them and just pretend your talking to them. The comfort will be there and you will always have something to say! It works wonders for me. Always remember no one is above you, don't be so shy. Just let yourself come through a little more and there should be no problems.
2007-02-22 01:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Love your life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. I've dated men like you and I have GOOD NEWS for ya...
US women LOOOOVE to talk about ourselves. So, if you can simply manage to "get the ball rollin' " you should have no porblems.
First off. You are GARANTEED to continue (initiate) ongoing conversation provided you ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS start off with a question. Doesn't have to be "thought provoking" but it can't be "How bout them Raiders..." A very good thing to do is ask a question about something you have in common. Like a teacher, a class, a job, friends......... That way you will be able to more easily respond to any of her questions - since they will be about things you are already familiar with........
Like I said Dude.
You will be fine.
Just remember to give a sincere compliment to us every once in awhile (I think your eyes look so amazing in that shirt....etc) WE GUSH over that stuff - no matter what. We can't help it.
When it comes down to it... If you find yourself in a conversation and feel like you are running out of words or it is taking a turn.... LET THE GIRL KNOW YOU ARE SHY. This is an INSTANT fix (because women NEVER run out of stuff to talk about). Rather than telling her you are just shy... Tell her "Wow. Ya know - for some reason, I always feel shy when I am around you and I don't always know what to say.......... "
TRUST ME MAN - US WOMEN LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear that. It means you are showing us your tender side and we just love to nurture you men and she is gonna think that is so sexy that you shared that with her.
Then, TRUST me - you will be spending the entire evening wishing that SHE was shy because ONCE you get that ball rolling with a woman, we will devote ALL of our energy's to "fixing" the issue of shyness and we will begin by asking you about 100 questions and because we are tender and thoughtful beings, we will do this with sincerity and tenderness....... You will definatley get a squeeze on the leg, or a hand on the arm - or a nudge on the shoulder.......... She will try to talk that shyness right out of you and won't stop until she has found something that you BOTH have in common and by the end of the night you will totally be joking arund and having a GREAT TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck My Man!
Be STRONG - You can do this -
ANd you will be SO glad to know that I was right.
I promise.
Need more info - or have more questions?
Email me then I am hppy to help you sweetie.
Meg@TorrieWedding.com
2007-02-22 01:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always search for a conversation starter...by asking questions! Ask who they know, what they do for fun, where they are from, where do they normally go out, etc. This kind of talk breaks the ice, if you can find some common ground between the both of you. If you find common ground, the next step is getting her comfortable enough to come to your living quarters and that is another question!
Good Luck!
2007-02-22 01:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, most (notice i'm not saying ALL) but most girls enjoy talking about themselves and their interests a lot, so all the guy really has to do is ask questions about what their interests are, etc., and they will just talk and keep the conversation going with little effort on the guy's part.
2007-02-22 01:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by tinyjackblack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should educate yourself and read more books and different articles in scientist magazines - first it will make your brains work faster, so u won't waste that much time on "processing" your thoughts. second it will give u some topics for conversation. and there re no shy people, there re people who aren't able communicate or who re dull and have nothing to talk about.
2007-02-22 01:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of her as a potential friend, rather than a potential girlfriend. Males and females are interested in many of the same things. There's no reason to be nervous. Just ask her about herself, and talk to her as if you were talking to one of your male friends. Keep it clean though.
2007-02-22 01:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep her talking. talk about things she knows about. It could be her profession, some cause she's working for, entertainment news, or say useless facts about something around you.
2007-02-22 01:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ting 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about her outfit and how you like it, ask her where she got it. ask her how her job or school is going. ask if she has seen any new movies or bought any good cds lately. ask what she has been doing today and if she has any plans for the rest of it...thats when you go in for the kill.
2007-02-22 01:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give complimates and ask her if she has any siblings and what kind of movies they like and than ask if she wants to see a movie or ask what kind of food she likes and ask her to go to dinner
2007-02-22 01:35:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋