How can I confront my boyfriend?

Question

I was starting to get a little suspicious of my boyfriend even though he tells that he loves me all the time and whatnot I don't know...things just dont seem right! Well, I logged on the his cell phone log and saw who he calls and who calls him and found another number besides mines. It was a girl that stayed in a nearby city. I wonna confront about it because right after he calls me he calls her or she calls him and they talk on the phone nearly the whole time while i'm at school. I hate it because he had me thinking i'm the only person in his life ya know. I stopped playing around just to be with only him but u can't do right by men cuz they still dont care...they gotta have sum kinda sideline chik. Well, how do i tell him without seeming like i dont trust him enuff since i went thru his cell phone log online ....i just wanna kno the truth...itz hurting 2 know this and i wonna let it out...plz help me yall

Well its not that I was looking for trouble its just that he didnt trust me at first because i was still talking to my ex while i was talking to him but he and I wasn't officially going out yet so i didn c it as a big deal. From then on he hasn't really trusted me and he was always accusing me of stuff even though i was being faithful and his mom told me once "if a man keeps accusing you of things then he's more than likely up to something himself so watch out!" She didn't even know what was going on so I had to find out something.......

Answer 1

I think it's okay for you to tell him that you went through his cell phone log. After all, if you two are in a growing relationship you should have no secrets from each other. Tell him he can also check your phone log.

If he's really seeing someone behind your back you might consider letting him go since he can't be trusted. If he cuts off the relationship with the other girl it's up to you whether you want to keep him but I'd be real careful after that. If he does it again after that just let him go and find someone who is trustworthy and true to their word of committment.

Answer 2

You have already gone too far! How would you like it ,if he went thru YOUR stuff, all of the time...because he didn't trust you?

I think that you need to stop doing this "let me check on my fella, because he is a big baby" routine...You know better....If you don't trust him...you may have your own issues to deal with....

you might want to see a counselor..because if it isn't this fella, it just might come up in the next relationship...

Have you even tried sitting down and seriously talking to him about all of this, before going thru his belongings?

think about that...Maybe , just maybe he ISN'T lying to you...now how would you feel, if one of the ladies on his phone was a great :"friend" or best friend..ONLY?!!!!

Jealousy will make you lose a good guy...guys honestly hate that...and women do too! Don't play ANY head games...you do the talking..and ask him..and be honest, but, not angry with him...you NEED to know the truth...if he IS playing you...then just leave him...but, first ...you have to give him a chance to answer you....okay?!!!

Answer 3

Say he say he's been talking to somebody else, what would you want to do?
9 times out of ten when your gut tells you there is something wrong...there is.
Now what do you want to do? Confront him, OK but what is that going to solve? Would he be honest? and what if he doesn't be honest with you?
Remember one thing, you are not going to stop ANY behavior of a grown man, I unbelievably hear 'well, if he is taking care of home first, that's all that matters'...You matter, alot. What can you be true to if you can't be true to yourself? Play it out if you must, but once the trust is gone...move on. Guys are out there that will treat you like you DESERVE to be treated. It hurts, but it hurts worse the second time around because you try, not even knowing to be all you can be for him, and when it happens again, you'll feel like it is your fault or your not good enough to keep his attention. Think about these things, been there...You are you, don't be anything Else, and don't be any thing less, for anybody.

Answer 4

well you shouldnt have to give up everything for him. you should be able to talk to your guy friends and he should be able to talk to his girl friends. As long as there is trust you two shouldnt have to limit each toher to being the only people you talk to in your lives. You shouldnt jumo to conclusions cuz the girl he talks to might b a close friend or someone he talks to for advice. You should either admit to him that u know bout the girl and try and work through the trust issues OR if you want to be sneaky about it, just chill with him one day and ask him to let you see his phone. If he is hesistant or doesnt let you then you can bring the trust issue on that note. If he lets you see it and you see the number of the girl ask her who she is and see how he reacts. If he deletes his recent calls then ask him why he would do that if he ha nothing to hide

Answer 5

this is horrible, I feel that she should just write him a note saying she deserved more and is going to look for it. no explanation needed. she needs to get away from a guy like this. i recently noticed that in order for a realationship to work with anyone, both people have to have the same goal to life. it makes it easier that way. he clearly has no goals outside of getting more weed and she does. take it from me, i left from college and left an ex boyfriend with no life behind. it was hard, we dated all high school, but it was the best thing i could have done, i met new people and experienced stuff i wouldent have if i would have stayed with him. she needs to leave and NOT LOOK BACK. i know it easier said that done but tell her to do it for herself, if she stays with him, he wont respect her and she needs to have more respect for herself that to waste her life with him. nevermind the "hes been abuse" if he has then he should no better that to abuse her. also, any guy who says i want to f*** her or shes hot ect, has no problem doing it if he can, he already admitted to it, that is the hardest part.

Answer 6

Why'd you go into his phone? You were looking for something to find, maybe it is something, maybe it's not, but it sounds like you were looking for something to find. Even if you didn't find this, you would've found something else.

Well since you already found it, you might as well talk to him about it. Ask him who it is that he calls so often, don't yell at him, because if you do, I am sure he'll get mad that you're in his phone.

Answer 7

Move on, he will cheat on you. Why are you hanging on, you act desperate. Do you like punishement, and misery> There is not trust left here. If you are snoooping around in others peoples personal things, you never know what you will find. Now you opened up a new can of worms. So act on it, its what you were wanting to find out.

Answer 8

now really, do you think they just talk on the phone? if he's on with her the whole time your at school, thats a long time. I would think he is also visiting her. I don't know about confronting him, what good would that do? he's obviously interested in another girl. I would get rid of him and his untrustworthy azz.

Answer 9

Take the direct route and tell him you saw another number in his cell phone, who do you talk to all day long? Oh and I slept with your brother. That should shut him up.

Answer 10

You can't tell him because if you do he's going to know you been through his shi*,not being funny or nothing but I have this thing I always say because my daughter father use to go through my things and when he finds something use to have a fit,but I told him servr your azz right because when you go searching for something that means you want to find something,o.k and you did,deal with it.