I am happy for my friends and when they get boyfriend but then I get so envious that I feel so horrible about it. I should be happy if my friend and crush get along so well but ugh it boils my blood how do i stop being a jerk?
2007-02-21 17:24:09 · 7 answers · asked by jjjj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you!!! Most girls just hate their friends when this happens, but you are trying to be a better person. Next time you feel this way, dont hang out with them at first when they are together. If you know its going to bother you, go do something else. There are plenty of attractive nice guys out there, it shouldn;t take too long to find another one.
Good guys (and girls) are like buses. Another one will be by in 10 minutes, be patient.
2007-02-21 17:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you’re feeling is very common. You feel left out. You’re happy for them, you’re sad because they don’t hang out with you, next comes jealousy, then anger.
Unfortunately, when a friend finds a new mate they tend to run off and be by themselves. Which is expected, but you’re friend should still hang out with you. Include the bf, include his friends.
My personal experience. Back when I was kid that’s how we did it. When one of us found a gf we included her. We usually hung out on the weekend and having a gf didn’t change it.,
We simply brought the girl along. She brought her friends. Next thing we knew. Our little circle of friends has grown. My buds found a gf, my gf friends found a bf. They all brought their friends and so on.
To date, some 25 years later our high school tradition still lives on. Every Saturday night we still get together. During our 20’s it was a hit and miss but the gang still got together. Now, in our 30’s. It seems like everyone’s life has settled down and we are still getting together every Saturday night. Last Saturday was our biggest weekend get together. Over 30 people from the group went out on the town. Over the Christmas weekend. We rented a hall and had close to 200 people. It all started with just 3 teenage guys hanging out playing guitar on the weekend.
So, what I’m getting at is.. just because your friends found a mate, they shouldn’t blow you off. You all should be able to hang out.
If they blow you off - find more friends and better friends.
Okay, sorry.. I’m finished.
2007-02-22 01:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being jealous stems from being unbalanced, and the fear that something you're holding onto too tight is going to end.
Be confident in yourself, and you'll find you won't be jealous. Besides, if your g/f's get a boyfriend, that doesn't mean you won't get one, or that her b/f would be right for you.
Back to that last point: Be confident.
2007-02-22 01:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Paul BS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divert your attention
You see your friend with her boyfriend, and guess what? You're the third party in that relationship, so just stay away when they are together and do your own thing. Shoot some hoops and get your frustration out. Just divert your attention to something else
2007-02-22 01:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BY start trusting ppl and trust your self.
2007-02-22 01:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by g_ramirezjr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself somebody new
2007-02-22 01:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must learn to release your stress...
2007-02-22 01:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋