im 18 shes 15?

Question

so i just started going out with this girl yesterday and well she really likes me and i really like her .. the only problem is shes 15 and im 18 and well she didnt tell her mom yet which is kinda messed up but her friend told me that her mom doesnt want her to hang out with me . most likely because of our age.. and it hurts..her mom never met me b4 so im basically thinking shes just a steriotypical mom that just thinks i want to get some .. and trust me its not the case lol .. idk im beginning to get frustrated and need some answers.. on how to actually get on her moms goodside when i do meet her at some point.. and what should i do with me and my girlfriend's relationship? hold off?

Answer 1

Again, honesty is best policy. Run like heck! I will tell you why. Young ladies are informed in health class about birth control and such and you are truly going to reach a feeling for her when you will be looking for more than just hanging out. My husbands daughter lives with her mother and she was 15 dating a young man who was 18 and they have been together for a while now. She is going to be 17 and he is off at college. Needless to say, we recently heard that she is PREGNANT. He has since moved on and left her hanging. It was not what he wanted, to have a baby and she was irrisponsible enough (probably due to the fact she couldn't drive, her age and her lack of intelligence) that she forgot to refill the birth control. This young ladies mom is just looking out for her best interest and future. You honestly can't hold that against her mother for protecting her. It's the smart/right thing to do. Good luck to you and if it is meant to be, it will come back to you. Be patient!

Answer 2

As someone that has a bit of experience working in the correctional setting (working with convicted felons) what you could be facing is a list from indecent liberties with a child (since she is less than 16) all the way to rape (not just the statutory kind either). Different states have different laws, you could be looking at 12 months-20 years. Perhaps you'll make better choices in the future, if you get the chance. A 15 year old girl is still a child and her parents can and should press charges, start looking for a lawyer.

Answer 3

Steer clear of her hun. Think of it this way. U may have good intentions ok, but sometime when the two of u are out and alone, things can sometimes get carried away. If this should result in the two of u having sex, even though it was concentual, and her mom finds out, her mom can press charges against u, and your life is ruined forever. U will be put in jail or prison, over one night of fun.
She will be there in 3 years. Try dating her when she turns 18. Its just not worth the risk.
So, Yes.....i would hold off and wait for her if she is who u would like to be with.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Nice.. A guy of your age is already thinking of trying to please your girlfriend's parents to be together with your girlfriend, that's quite a rare sight, really.

You can still hang out with her, as long as you're not disrupting her studies and all, that is the first small pleasing thing that I think every parents are concerning about. She's still a small girl, duh and still growing up. Concern about her studies and all, okay? Make sure she do well in whatever she's doing and not too head over heels for you that she neglects her work and her family. Grow up with her.

As to really please her mom, that will need some time and hardworks where you need to do some provings that you're decent! Would you like to try out going to her place to help her mom often and be a good guy in her mom's mind? Not too often but enough to represent yourself as decent and loving. :/

If it doesn't work out.. I guess you will really have to put the relation on hold then and wait till time is mature for the both of you to be together.

Goodluck!
btw, it doesnt sound 'right' to be dating a 15yo girl, ya know.. the 'pedophile' thing?.. But hey! You can't help it when love comes into the picture!

Answer 5

did you actually expect her mom to like the idea she is dating an 18 year old. I am by no means saying it is wrong. but shes a mom. and they are all going to freak out if they hear something like that. and to be honest the ONLY way to get on her good side is maybe not take her daughter out to dinner or movies or whatever you guys want to go out and do, but go IN and watch movies at her house in the living room, eat dinner with her family. constantly stay around the house so her mom gets the right feeling for you and then slowly progress to going OUT to dinner and such. It really will work if the mom is willing to give you a chance. You may be frustrated but just stay patient!! If you like her its worth it

Answer 6

I would reccommend you talk to her mom right away and explain the situation. She will do one of two things A. tell you to get lost, or B. give her blessing. This is basically you're only option unless you are willing to go to jail for this girl and spend the rest of your life registering as a sex offender.
It would take a lot of courage and deserves a great amount of respect if you asked her mother permission before you began dating her and it would be very hard for her mother to not understand that you care for her daughter and your intentions are genuine. Versus being the creepy older guy who is dating her underage daughter!!

Answer 7

You just need to be poliet when you meet her..make her be able to trust you..be nice and try and make conversation with her..and especially the father (if he's around).

You've got to gain the parents trust for them to be happy with the relationship that you have with their daughter.

If the first impression you make is bad..then you'll prove their point right..
instead make a good impression for them..make them think .. 0o ..we were wrong about this boy"

Now..i know you said your not with her just to get " some" ..

but at your age..there will be a time when you get sexual urges..and the only girl that is going to be with you..is this 15 yr old girl...(unless ur planning on cheating on her-which if you are..you might aswell just not go out with her)

So you need to think about it..there will also be alot of maturity difference in this relationship..so you've got to think carefully of what you want before you take it any further...(meet the parents...sexual relationship..ect)

Answer 8

Oooo that question hits me hard my oldest daughter was 15 and her current boyfriend was 19 which believe me i dont like but he did it the right way and he came and told me that he wouldnt date her unless he had my permission which after he hung out at the house a few times i gave but still the first month was hard i was pretty strict but she is 17 now and they are still together and they seem happy an dm y daughter told me before they had sex so i could be prepared so i suggest asking for the mothers persmission and see what response you get!

Answer 9

Most mothers won't be happy with their 15 yo dating an 18 yo. You have to understand that it's illegal and you can get into a lot of trouble. Is it worth going to jail and having to register as a sex offender to date this girl? I would really think about it.

PS. If you don't have sex with this girl until she is 18 then you will be fine. But can you really wait 3 years? If you can, why don't you just be friends with her until she is of age?

Answer 10

Well, i know that its frustrating but relax, maybe you should try talking to her mom one on one alone. If she doesn't want you to date her daughter maybe you could suggest spending time at the house with your girlfriend until her mom gets to know you a little better. Also maybe you should show her mom that you can handle just being a respectible adult about it and take things slow. Also let her mom know why you like her daughter and why you care for her and that your not trying to be disrespectful upon her wishes.