will i ever find love? what should i do now?

Question

lately ive been having some problems. i am in my second semester of college and i just cant seem to hit the right note with guys. no one seems to notice me. ive gone through 5 guys who i like but only see me as a friend. i am a rather attractive girl and i have alot of love to give i just want to find the right guy who wont try to use me for a one night stand and who is there for me. i ve depressed lately cuz its been about one and one half years since i have last dated someone and i feel like im gonna give uo on it. i know i shouldnt but i feel like i cant do any good by dating and im going to just get hurt, so what should i do?

Answer 1

Sweet heart your still young and me also. I have just come out of an engaged relationship of 3 years and i am 21. I have realised being with a guy cant make you happy first you need to be happy with yourself first take this time being single to reflect on loving yourself and everything about you. I thought the same as you once i never understood why i was single and i am beautiful too, so i settled for less and its the biggest mistake even though i learnt the hard way. Go and enjoy yourself life is too short for waiting on Mr right. Love is something we can have anytime you just have to attract love into your life which means loving yourself. Thats the key to life love and happiness. I hope this secret fills your heart with all the things you desire. God bless your beautiful and you dont need a man to tell you. believe in yourself. :)

Answer 2

Just be natural, love will find you and will find a way, when you least expect it! That's the way it works, if you are in college there is a lot to study and do.
There is no reason to be depressed if you are studying to be someone, work on your goals and life, focus on what truly matters, go to church, seek God and his guidance that will bring you peace. Don't look at anyone else, don't care about what 5 guys have to say if it's negative, or if it's sending you the wrong message.
Take care of yourself and your self esteem, body and spirit. Some men can be cruel and try to use you for something, you should be able to pick it up, be alert and be sensitive at the same time, if you see or feel a red flag you must stop and think, isn't it better to be by yourself right now? Than to get hurt relationships are very complicated & can be a lot of work with the wrong person, they do take work regardless, you have to have the time and dedication to have one, and people don't always tell the truth.

if you have much studying, I'd focus on that if I were you, I personally feel I couldn' have a relationship if I was in college and work 2 jobs like I did in my younger years, and I was married just out of high school, but I had discipline. If you stop and think and analyze it, you will see you don't need that, there is a different kind of love out there, it sounds like there is some competition around you, or you are looking too much at something that doesn't matter. When you remain focused on you and your goals, you can get very far.
I understand you have a lot of love to give, but you must use it for the right reasons. It sounds to me you must work on your self esteem. Take care of that, it's important people can see and feel your confidence or not, it's important you get it back, so you can shine and be happy, you have many reasons for wanting to do it. Take baby steps, one thing at a time about you, write things down, don't attract the negative, don't call it, think positive and br positive! , be careful with guys I know they play a lot of games, you'll meet someone good soon, just take care of first things first, and you'll see, you have your whole life ahead of you!
Keep your chin up and smile, The Lord loves you. He'll bring the right person, when the time is right. Cheer up!

Answer 3

I would suggest that you find a non-denominational Church and begin attending. Check them out carefully and see that they are not real weird. They should be quoting Biblical references for everything that they do and be able to tell you why they are different from other churches in the area. As you begin visiting, check to see if there are people of different ages and walks of life. You should be able to find a young male there that attends regularly and is caring enough that he will not harm you in any way. I imagine that you are interested in going out with someone that you can see on a regular basis that has family in the area and roots in the community, don't you? If you have any questions or are not able to find a church in your area just send me a note and I will assist you in doing so. I have been married for 31 years and I certainly am not interested in looking for a young lady to date or anything like that but I have a list of non-denominational churches nationwide and worldwide if you are interested just drop me a note and give me your city/town and state or country. I hope that you are able to find a good young man that will treat you right and be considerate. Have a great day!
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Answer 4

Hey don't worry ok? Love finds everybody :-)

One thing you have to watch out for is the effect your appearance has on guys. Instead of thinking you're not interesting enough, I would say many guys feel a bit intimidated by how good you look. Trust me, it can get to guys sometime. And you're right, there are those guys who look to have a one night stand with good looking girls....

You seem to be a really nice girl... one thing you should look to do is try to be self sufficient. I can see that you're feeling the NEED to go out with someone, because you have a lot of love to give. Let's say you DO find a guy who can receive all of that, will you wanna give all your love to HIM?? It's the wrong way to go I would say.... instead, try to be self sufficient, don't feel the need, don't feel the RUSH to go out, cuz that'll make you very vulnerable, you may unfortunately end up being with some guy who you know won't have a future with you.

Look, you can't go around looking for your love. Hang out more with your girl-friends, try to see the life other than guys, and basically, try not to feel the need to be with a guy. See, I think this need of yours may even turn guys off. Guys like girls who are very hard to get, and these are often those who are not looking for a guy as such. Once you focus on other things, trust me, soon a guy will notice you, and would want to get to know you more and more. THIS is the guy you'd wanna be with, right? :-) One who takes interest in you and one who does everything he can to get your attention.....

Good luck and.... let me know how it goes :-) You'll find the guy who's searching for you :-)

Answer 5

Im 22 and have never had a boyfriend.. and Im almost done with college... And Ive been told that I look like a model and all this bs.. but I do avoid parties and blatant flirting.. Be thankful that you are waiting for soemthing serious- its often hard in college to find the serious types -they are usually working hard or studying hard.. Just live your life for yourself- and treat yourself right. Sometimes guys may be intimidated- you may be too smart or too beautifulthat it may threaten their ego.... or on the other hand you may appear too desperate.. and that also sends off a signal of repellant.. haha just enjoy your time to yourself! Guys sometimes can suck.. good luck!

Answer 6

You are a freshman in college and you already want to give up on guys...ouch. Not every guy wants to play you, but at that age, not everyone wants love either. You have "alot of love to give," well stop giving it to every guy and save it for a guy that will respect you. Keep looking, a lot of guys want action, but there are plenty that want a girlfriend, don;t give up but instead, set your standards higher and expect more from these fools, you;ll find a good one.

Stay positive!

Answer 7

You are thinking about it to much!! Take a Karate class, the guys will think it is cool and learn to kick some butt to take out frustrations, it will make you feel better!
As long as you are thinking about it...It usually won't happen, you'll go with the wrong on because you feel lonely. Give it time..Relax, it'll happen.

Answer 8

there's really not that much to do. This situation is one of those things that you just have to wait out. You seem really great and you'll find someone eventually. come on! youre only in your sencond semester of college. Theres plenty more of college left
Good Luck with everything!

Answer 9

wel if you are in australia come see me :) im single. naa from persioanl experiences- i too have felt that way i have found that you have just gotta get back up and keep on trying. let love find you- don't expect that you will fall in love and wow you will supprise yourself. you are studying atm- that is your primary focus. but you can still have your sugar with everything.

you need to also be happy in yourself too

Answer 10

Get to work with your education and let the good guy come by naturally. That's the only true way!