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I'm a single mom who has lived with a room mate who also has kids of her own for 4 years now. My mom trys to always interfere and tell me what to do with everything. The latest is now she wants me to move back home. She is really getting on my nerves. I am the youngest of 4 kids and the only kid living near my parents. I want to move away, but feel guilty because they are in their early 70's. Yet I'm putting my life on hold for them. I feel mom wants me to move back because she doesn't get along with my dad. Plus both my parents had their mothers move in with them when the grandfathers died. So again I feel she's trying to get me to take care of them. My sister and 2 brothers would never want to live with them and I don't either. My mom is bipolar and so am. When I was younger her and I would fight alot when I lived at home. I'm so torn on what to do. Do I stay nearby or move? I tried telling her I didn't want to move back home. She got real mad and yelled.

2007-02-21 17:09:02 · 5 answers · asked by amybeth201 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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This is a question you will have to answer yourself. I am going to leave you with a few things to think about. If you guilt is getting in the way of you moving away there is a reason for that. You are the baby so mother is going to all ways try to hold on to the youngest one to male sure you are all right. You must cherish and love you mom unconditionally no matter how mad she makes you cause one day you never know when you may open your eyes and your mom is gone, at least by you doing all you can to make her feel loved and know that you love her will make her happy deep dowwn. She may not show it at all but she is missing and feeling unloved right now all the rest moved away and now all she has is you the baby the last one, My mom was all ways calling me and talking to me on the phone in her last days, even thou we had our ups and downs I loved her and showed her all the love I had for her it brought tears to her eyes cause she felt like no one loved her cause we all moved away now when I lok back at those days I regret some things but I know that my mom knew that I loved her no matter what we went thru in our life together. You may have to try your best to talk to you mom to find out exactly what it is that she wants you have to tell her that you love her and show her that right now she is lashing out for one of you to show her your love but you all are still pushing her away. This could be her last days you never know this could be your last days we don't know if any of us will open our eyes in the mourning or not. You have to have a serious mother and daughter talk take her out to eat or a park and you and her sit and talk try to find out why she so angry and yelling all the time. Her feeling no love from any of you is what she is feeling I know from experience, when my mom passed I had no kind of guilt at all I wanted to move away as well to get away but my guilt kept me here why cause I did not know my mom was going to leave me within the next few years we grew closer she stop yelling and we got along a whole lot better. I am just saying you have to look deep inside and think things thru if your mom was to pass away right now will you still feel guilty about things that you could have done but did not do? Follow you heart and I pray that you will make the right decision. You don't have to stay with her but you can work things out with her to where you will be showing her that you love her and help her out when she need it. You can explain to her that you don't wanna move back home but let her know that if she needs you she can call and you will be there for her. When you mom is gone there will be a lot of things running thru your mind day in and day out.

2007-02-21 17:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You've already answered your own question dearie!!
You argue with your mom when you are together. She is obviously 'very' controling.
Your mom and dad don't get along.
So there you have it!!
Why on earth would you want that kind of misery in your life!!
I know you love your mom, but moving far enough away could give you 'both' the room you need.
You could move an hour or two away, so that
'IF' for any reason you need to go to them, you
won't have to travel all day or half the night.
I think it would be wise to raise your kids in a
friendly and loving enviroment 'and thats NOT
what they'd have with your parents'. You 'FIRST' priority should be whats best for your kids (or kid), as far as a stable home life.
Their feelings and emotional growth are of utmost importance, and to subject them to a
volotile atmosphere (at your moms), would
have long term effects on them.
MOVE!

2007-02-22 01:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like a real messy situation. Only you can decide what to do but keep focused on one thing-- whatever you do ; do it because you want to and not because of guilt feelings. You have a right to happiness also!!!

2007-02-22 01:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Don R 5 · 0 0

For your own peace of mind, move away and let her be mad.

2007-02-22 01:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0 0

your mother will be happy if your happy..... eventually, you need to take control of your life she cant control you forever, and you cant be hers forever your not a doll or a toy

2007-02-22 01:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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