i have broken up with him twice and once was because i lost my whole family i was sad and i figured i should just lose everything. well we are talking he says he loves me i love him with all of my heart. he says he wants to get back together but he cant because he thinks i will brake up with him again but i wont because he is the love of my life and we were going to get married. i have tryed everything and i need help...
2007-02-21 17:00:03 · 15 answers · asked by lost in love! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright girl. Read this very carefully if you want to have a prayer in heaven for having him back. I guarantee you, it will happen. But follow my advice no matter how counter-intuitive the instructions. Trust my voice of experience...
The only thing people are attracted to is perfection. Now, nobody is actually perfect. So, what on earth should you do? The trick is to merely project perfection. All you need to project is that you are perfecter than your desired admirer, i.e. him. In English: reject him as a boyfriend, accept him as a friend.
Drum roll: Thank him for the wonderful time you had together and extend him an invitation for friendship.
She who wants nothing is invincible. People who project invincibility, become super attractive... Show him needlessness, and watch him welcome you back with open arms (but lock your immediate happiness in your heart forever... It's a secret you cannot let out as if revealed, it will undo your image).
Good luck.
2007-02-21 18:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by keysar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 22:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like same thing my little sister is going thru. I don't know all the details of her relationship or your's(ie.why you broke up, what the living arrangements are)...but I want to offer a little advise to you since my sister didn't want it....
Think about the situation...
Why did you break up each time? Is it a trust, money, children, family issue? How long between breakups? Why did you lose your whole family? Isn't "blood" thicker than "water"? If he doesn't want to get back together because he's afraid you'll just break up again....how sure are you that your going to get married? Does he really trust you?
I understand that you love him with all your heart, but didn't you feel that way about the boyfriend you had before your current boyfriend? I think that love is something special and should be cherished. He says he loves you but---doesn't wast to get back together because he thinks you'll break up with him. Doesn't love concur all? Most important remember that your family has tried to be there for you and they love you unconditionally. Don't lose your family for one man.
Here's my last thought...
Let something go...if it comes back to you then its yours to love..if it doesn't then it was never really your's to love.
Good luck and I'll pray for you and my sister that the situation works out for the best.
2007-02-21 17:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by colorfulswanson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you really break up with him the other time? Are you sure it was right all along? Being lonely you can make some really bad decisions, like to get back with another person even when you know its not right in your heart. You may think you are meant to be with someone, but it might not be the case. If you are willing to commit everything to him, then keep trying, true love never fails. But if you aren;t, then think twice, this could be the biggest mistake of your life, and you will hate yourself if you hurt him again.
Are you sure its right? Don;t chase old love just because your lonely.
2007-02-21 17:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you've suffered loss and abandonment at your young age. It makes sense that losing your boyfriend again is unbearable. But perhaps you might ask yourself why you broke up with him both of those times. Were there underlying issues between the two of you that you found unbearable???? Have you considered some form of counseling to help you with your grief and to assist you in feeling less depressed? Perhaps the issue isn't really about losing your boyfriend....maybe its about being afraid of being alone. Good luck and God Bless!
2007-02-21 17:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with him through the good and bad. let him feel the love from u... tell urself that u r loving this guy cos he has given u the power to love someone. look at what u can give to him and not what he has given to you so far.
if he really love u, he will come to accept it. just bear with it and love will see u through.
2007-02-21 17:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A brake up is scary, because brakes are what are in your car. Wear a seatbelt.
2007-02-21 17:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be, he will come back. Guys just have a tendancy every now and then to need their space just us girls do. If he says he loves you, then chances are he does. Just be honest with him and communicate alot if he will allow it. Just give him time and he will be back in your arms if its meant to be.
2007-02-21 17:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by mcpark2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta get the trust back. SPend time with him. make him remember what it was like when you two were together.
2007-02-21 17:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him. explain to him why you broke up, explain to him why you want to get back with him. not over the phone either, do it in person so he knows that you really really mean it.
2007-02-21 17:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋