my bf and i have been together for over a year. i am 17 and he's 19. i am 7 months pregnant now. and he says things that are just rude, or just things you dont say to someone you care about. (he's not verbally abusive or anything like that though) i have tried to tell him that i am very sensitive, especially right now, and some of the things he says hurts my feelings, even though he may not realize it. he's made me cry, and still will not apoligize or anything! he says he doesnt know what my problem is, or he goes on and starts putting hisself down(saying oh well im sorry i am just a worthless p.o.s. i guess ect..) i have even told him, if he makes me upset, just give me a hug, kiss me, and tell me you love me and you are sorry and i will be fine. but for some reason he likes to drag it on and it just makes me feel worse. when he does this i even tell him just nevermind. you are really stressing me out, please just stop. and he continues! i need help! please give me some advice
2007-02-21 16:51:14 · 7 answers · asked by ashtonms1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh girl... we should be friends.. my man is the exact same way! he doesnt believe that our hormones change while pregnant, and he doesnt understand y i cry all the time (im nine months pregnant). i tell his not to stress me out like he does, because it can cause birth defects, and at this point, can cause premature labor. unfortionantly, they will never go through what we are going through, and will never change either. i've tried everything, all i can do is just avoid him on his (or my) bad days. i mean, i cant even get out of a car very easily, and he will yell at me to hurry up. there is no way to fix how men act. i do have to warm u, ur last month, the doctor will tell u no more sex till after the baby's born, and it will really get stressful then. just try ur best to keep calm, for the sake of u and your baby.
2007-02-21 17:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The impending birth of a child at your respective ages is presenting a whole host of feelings--some are chemical and some are psychological. His becoming a father at 19 in approximately 2 months and a parent as well is freaking him out. His girl friend is now to become a mother. Priorities, including the relationship components changes and life style changes take place. He has some personal issues when he gets down on himself. These are things that are at best very difficult for you to deal with as you have your own well being on your front burner. Even as an infant your child needs a father who is a tower of strength and love and a mother who lovingly nurtures her child without reservations.
Both of you have to be on the same page and up to the task. Both of you need a lot of help to make this work. By that I mean parents or friends. Good luck & congratulations.
2007-02-21 17:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you wait till you have been so a techniques alongside to tell him?! That probable did no longer help any! in case you saved a being pregnant a secret long adequate to make certain the gender (sixteen-20 weeks), then he's probable thinking what else you have saved from him. provide him a while, attempt calling him in some days or a week even. permit him understand once you're heading to the scientific institution in exertions, and if he nevertheless would not step up, take him to courtroom. Your father and mom cant make you do anythig which incorporate your baby thatyou do no longer prefer to.
2016-11-24 23:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you could go to counseling together. Speaking with a professional may help him understand why he treats you the way he does and why it isn't acceptable.
2007-02-21 16:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Dont know maybe he isnt ready to be a daddy.. talk to someone.. but for some reason Guys wont say their sorry....
2007-02-21 17:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have two babies to deal with. don't worry about him you are 17 and pregnant. you care too much about his feelings. WHAT ABOUT YOU! good luck with everything sounds like your gonna need some luck and then some
2007-02-21 17:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just pissed that he can't bone you while your preggo.
2007-02-21 17:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by Spook Leane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋