I went out with this great guy on 2 dates both which went really really well and we both seemed to really like each other. The chemistry was all there etc etc .
Last week were organising our 3rd date and I called him and he didnt answer. He called me back saying 'i think you want a relationship and I cant do that right now, im sorry I think you are great but im just really busy right now sorry.'
I just dont understand how it can be so great (it wasnt just me, he was saying how great it was going too) and then have it end so suddenly.
Its been over a week since he said this to me, im hoping that he changes his mind.
My question is - is there anything I can do to maybe try and get him back? Or am i just wasting my time?? Should I just move on? I havnt sent him any texts or even tried to call him. Should i just sit tight??
Be brutally honest people.. i need it.
thanks heaps
xx
2007-02-21 16:43:28 · 14 answers · asked by misskayte 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All your answers are great! Thankyou!
I forgot to mention the following:
a) on the 2nd date he couldnt get it up
b) i had to cancel a date before valentines day as I had work committments.
c) he dumped me on valentines day
maybe these details weigh into the issue!???
2007-02-21 17:24:09 · update #1
Girl,
Sorry to be the first to tell you this but, "You've just been hit by a classic case of a Playa".
There's a rule with the fellas that for the guys that want a casual relationship and nothing serious, they don't do more than 2 dates and the pull out the "busy" card when you try to contact them. Everything you described about not reachable for a week and when you do, he is "busy" and "not available for a relationship as of now", that's standard textbook. (You wanted me to be brutally honest). You are devastated right now because you didn't expect it coming. Nothing you do and change his mind because guess what? You're not his first game... he does this on a frequent basis
2007-02-21 16:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sad as it might sound the best way to get someone back if they ever had interest in the first place is to not try at all. The more you try or call the more you become a nuisance. Hold tight after 2 weeks move on.
2007-02-21 16:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by stephenmwells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 08:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you available to be used by him as casual entertainment or not?
If you are, let him know that, clearly, and apologize for giving him the wrong impression.
If not, move on with your life, and maybe contact him occasionally to see if the situation has changed.
And never assume that he's not seeing somebody else?
2007-02-21 16:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when guys feels that a girl would like to pursue a relationship, and they r not ready, they would suddenly distance themselves. probably falling inlove makes them vulnerable and most of the time they hate that feeling. if you can try to talk to him to ask him what went wrong better. if you can at least try to be friends so at least you know you can retain the friendship, maybe in the long run you might continue it again...good luck...
2007-02-21 16:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably trying to let you down gently...sorry hun.
Happens to the best of us, I left my bf once for someone I thought was really into me...he started playing games with me so I cut him off completley...he still msgs me today...but I never reply. I feel good about myself having been brave even tho I really wanted to msg back...he isnt worth it
2007-02-21 17:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on!!! Men are always very blunt about what they want. Well ususally. If he is saying this to you, it's b/c he means it. Don't go there, move on!! Find someone who wants a relationship and appreciates you.
2007-02-21 16:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u'd already broken up with em once why get back together if u know there is something u dont like about him. ok email me and tell me why u decided to break up with em in the first place. ok? i'll be waiting for ur email. i'll help u out in my next email to u
2007-02-21 16:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if both of u are at a party try and look like ur having fun even if ur not because then he will be drawn to u best wishes
*~Brooke Zeo
2007-02-21 18:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Brooke Zeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on he says he is not ready. Just find someone who is looking for the same thing as you.
2007-02-21 16:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋