2 yr old that wont use the potty, uses duaper?

Question

This is the same kid i babysit for from my other question. I tell her when she gets to my house " if you have to go potty let me know and ill take to to the bathroom. Her mom is my sister in law and the 2 yr old sees me as her sister. She knows she isnt suppose to go in her diaper becuase everytime she does shell hide somwhere were i cant see her and go. and knowing shes went in her diaper ill ask her if she went in it and she lies to me. she is big for her size, (not fat) but shes 2 and shes wearing pull ups ,you know for bigger kids who actually got to the potty but have accidents.... i just dont know what to do shes punished when she goes in her diaper but it doesnt seem to have an effect...
(and in reply to my other queestion when she gets to pitching a fit i sit her on the couch like time out and shell get right back down and watch cartoon and get her toys and tells me no and hold on sticks her tongue out. im so close to not babysitting her and more she gets mad and me and claws

Answer 1

Kids are ready when THEY are ready...not according to YOUR schedule or convenience.

Signs a Child Is Ready for Potty Training

You will know that your child has reached a stage in his or her development where potty training can be introduced when you notice the following behaviors:

The child has regular bowel movements that come at particular times of the day.
The child is able to pull his or her pants up and down without assistance.
The child is staying dry for longer periods of time.
The child asks to use the potty, or toilet paper.
The child asks to wear “big boy” or “big girl” pants or underwear.
The child comes to tell you when he or she has wet or soiled.
The child shows physical signs of urinating or having a bowel movement. This can include hiding behind furniture, grimacing or straining.

Answer 2

Really sounds like she's not ready yet. Until she is, you have a long battle ahead of you, and you will probably not come out better in the end. Potty-training is difficult because you have to walk a fine line between being encouraging (so she is motivated) and pressuring her (will often lengthen the process.) Wait a little longer, then try again. In the meantime, find out what it is that scares her about it. If she's uncomfortable sitting on the big potty, she could very well be afraid of falling in. The flush might scare her. I've even heard of a child who was afraid to poop in the potty because he thought the feces was a part of his body. Flushing it away, in his eyes, was no different than flushing away his liver or spleen, or any other internal organs. If you know what the specific problem(s) are, you can work on it with her, focusing on the underlying problem. Get her a toilet seat or a booster; practice flushing by first listening to the sound on a book (there are potty-training books that have a flushing sound effect), then work up to flushing the real potty; help her understand as simply as possible that the poop is supposed to go bye-bye, and it doesn't mean she' flushing a part of herself away.

Answer 3

Two years old is a bit young for potty training. I know daycares force kids to be trained by then, but it's so wrong. Kids that young are normally just not ready. Don't punish her for going in her diaper. That will get you nowhere at all. We had a tough time with our son and the thing that finally worked was not doing anything about it. No praises, no rewards, no anger, no punishments. When he did go on the potty, we simply thanked him for doing so and left it at that. They are only doing what comes naturally to them. Let her be. Play with her, have fun with her, love her. When she messes in her diaper, just simply change her and then go back to what you were doing.

Answer 4

hi there welcome to the terrible two's, they're starting to develop a personality of their own now and will take advantage of any situation you give into and by the way if you show the slightest hesitation in authority you are in for it!
toddlers want to do fun things they have no time for being serious! make the potty a fun activity, and bribery definitely works, maybe invite over another toddler of about the same age that is potty trained and everytime that toddler uses the potty praise him or her alot and reward them with a lolly or some thing they like, believe me the attention the other kid is getting will show your little one she's missing out on something good, she'll however need to be praised alot when she eventually does come around, it takes persistance and dont give in to tantrums at all!
as for her not listening when you do try to repremand her, you need to get her into a routine of listening, if she knows that you're gonna cave if she screams enough then you've already lost!
stay firm and the best thing to do is tell her what she's done wrong and that she has to be punished and has to sit in the corner for 5 minutes, put her there facing the wall and walk away, if she leaves, take her back and tell her her time is not over, and walk away again do this until she stays there the whole amount of time, and then walk up to her and ask her to apologize for being naughty, and then tell her you love her!

Answer 5

She sounds like a kid who isn't ready for the toilet yet. Don't force her and DON'T punish her for using her diaper!!! Kids who are forced to potty train too soon become behavior problems because they are punished for natural bodily functions. Deal with the diaper for now, and don't make such an issue of it. Some kids don't get fully trained until 3 or 4 years old. We Americans put waaay too much stress on it being done by age 2. THAT'S a real load!

Answer 6

My advice is... try showing her how to use the potty see if that works maybe if you set on the toilet and show her its what big people do too she will use the potty as for punishing you should maybe put her in a play pen with no toys and explain to her why she is there my two year old step daughter is the same way meaner than all get out shes in her terrible two stage everythign is no and she hits andpunchs and bites when she dont get her way weve got to where we have to set her in the corner and make her stay there for a while and when she get sout of the corner make her stay in her play pen with no toys or tv and it usually works.

Answer 7

2 is still kinda early for the potty issue. she is just not ready. getting out of diapers and onto the potty is a major thing in life. it is like a divorce or a braekup to us. it is very tramatic. just be patient and dont get mad when she uses the diaper it will come

Answer 8

I didn't even try to potty train my son til just after his 3rd birthday. Some kids just aren't mature enough. Obviously she likes her diaper and she might have some kind of phobia of the toilet. Instead of punishing you can try rewarding. For everytime she uses the toilet she gets some sort of treat or sticker. Punishing the kid for going potty in a diaper can lead to some serious disorders. I had a friend who put her son in daycare. The lady in charge severely punished her son when he wet his pants because he didn't have a pullup on. It got to the point where he held it in 8 hours all day til he got home to go in the toilet.

Answer 9

She is only two. She is still a baby and will go on the potty when she is ready. Do not pressure her or it will make it worse and if you punish her she may be scared to even go on the potty. She just isn't ready but will let you know when she is.

Answer 10

Stop torturing this poor child. She is so OBVIOUSLY not ready to be potty trained. The best way to potty train a child is to wait until they are READY to be potty trained. Of course she acts the way she does you are forcing her to do something she isn't ready to do. That poor child doesn't deserve all the trauma you are putting her through...yes it would be best if YOU didn't babysit her because obvously you're not doing right by the child.