AT the end of our rope with potty training, need help bad what do we do? with our 3 and 1/2 year old girl?

Question

We have tried evy thing she does well for few days then right back to going all over herself, like today i the dad was at work and she did good all day then i get home and she goes back to not going. And i didnt say any thing i am at the end of our rope we also have 18 month old and one on way, i dont want three in diapers help help help

Answer 1

She could be doing it for attention, especially if there are other siblings and one on the way.

Other than making sure there isn't a medical reason why she can't control her bladder, just try lots of positive reinforcement. I found that Pull-Ups helped when I was potty training my daughter, instead of regular diapers.

Answer 2

OK, at the risk of sounding like psychobabble - here's my first guess as to what's going on: You say she's good all day while dad's away at work, and then when dad comes home she reverts to the baby-diaper thing, which probably gets dad's attention and makes her feel like the baby again, right? Sounds like she's wanting your attention, badly. She needs to feel just as special as the other 2 babies. OR: is there any stressful events? Is she moving rooms or changing beds or something to accommodate the new baby? Have you guys moved recently? Any major even in a child's life can set back potty training. And having setbacks at 3 1/2 is hardly abnormal, lots of kids do. Most kids aren't fully potty trained, pee and poop, day and night, until almost 4. Make sure you let her lead when she's ready. But do let her know that she can't wear the pretty girlie underwear and stuff if she wets herself. Punishment for accidents is a definite no-no, too. Rather, reward her when she's done well. I would say lighten up on it for the time being, give her some needed extra attention, and it's likely she'll go back to using the potty of her own accord.

Answer 3

I just helped potty train an almost 3 year old. she is doing great. Still wears a diaper at night/nap time and when we are going to be out all morning. I found that pull-up's DO NOT work very well. They act just like a diaper. I took a piece of paper and wrote "(childs name) potty chart" on it. Every time she went on her potty chair or the toilet. she got a sticker. We had problems getting her to poop on the potty. So I said she could get 2 stickers when she pooped on the potty. It worked. I also told her that when her potty chart was filled up (which it almost is) we can go do something special just the 2 of us. No brother or sister allowed. She has room on her chart for 2 more stickers then her's is full. So we will do something special next week when her brother and sister are at school. Her aunt also told her that once she started using the potty on a regular basis she could pick out a special toy. So she will be doing that soon. At 3 you can reason with her. Yell her big kids use the potty. they also get to eat ice cream, cake, and chocolate. Where as babies who wear diapers can't. Another thing I do is if we are going to be at home then i put her in clothes that are easy to get off. Heck sometimes she has no underwear on. just a pair of pants (that are easy to get on/off. Also at 3 kids like to be just like their friends. If she has a friend who uses the potty. play on that. Casually say that so and so uses the potty all the time. She's a big girl. In not time you will see a big diffrence.

This same little girls older brother and sister were older when they started potty training. He had just turnt 4 and his sister was about 3 1/2 or so. They were told that they could pick out a toy when they went on the potty. It took a while but they finally got the hang of it.

We had the same problem with having 3 in diapers. luckily it didn't last that long.

Answer 4

i had a 3 year old i couldnt potty train, try getting a piece of tag board and writing sunday thru monday across the board so each day of the week has squares under them . then go buy some cute girly stickers. for each time she goes potty let her put a sticker on the board then everyone including the child can see the progress that is being made. she will have something to show off when she is done. it worked with my daughter in 2 weeks.

Answer 5

It seems like your in a power stuggle with him. I recommend you play with him 15 minutes or more a day. Connect with him in this way and you will get more commpliance from him. Make sitting on the toilet a game. Pretend the toilet is the air plane that will take him to the other side of the mountain. All he has to do is sit on the potty when he has to go. I don't know what your son is interested in but you can do some thing like that. CHOICES WORK AMAZINGLY. When he tells you he has to go and you take him to the potty and he says "no", give him a choice, ei. "Do you want to sit on the toilet by yourself? or do you want me to help you? " If he say "no". With a firm voice, tell him to choose or you will choose for him (and follow through). Most of the time they want to win the battle so they choose the choice YOU give them. Another suggestion would be to take the diapers off completely. He will not like being wet. Point out how itchy it feels when the pee pee is on the leg. Take him a bath (waist down only). Good luck and wish you well.

Answer 6

It seems may be that she may be shy to potty around her dad may be have dad spend a day specifically with her father doing things around the house with just a pull-up or panties and a long shirt or dress on making it easy to undress to potty
my 2 and 1/2 daugther would not potty when her father was around so we set aside a Saturday where I took our 6 month old son out of the house for the entire day and left the 2 of them together allowing her father to help her and reminding her to try to potty she is now only wearing a pull up if we are out of the house for an extended time or going to bed

Answer 7

You should not force her to do this. This will make her feel uneasy and she will not want to use the potty. Do not get angry with her and punish her, this will make her think she is bad when she doesn't make it. Praise her when she uses the potty, but not too much. Maybe you could make a sticker chart, and she can see how many stickers she can earn at the end of the week. This may encourage her to want to use the potty to get stickers. Be patient. Not every child learns at the same pace. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Just stick with it. She will get it eventually. There are pull-up disposable underpants that will make her feel wet and cold when she goes in her pants. This is intended to make her stop, hold it and go to the bathroom. A friend of mine swears by them. She claims it teaches them what they feel like when they have to go as apposed to when they've already gone. My friend says that her daughter caught on quicker once she started using them. Make a big deal when she does go. Make her feel proud of herself. When she has an accident, take her to the washroom and remind her where she is supposed to go. Don't make her feel bad, just remind her while you are cleaning her up. Perseverence is needed in potty training, so whatever you do, make it consistent. You can even try putting her on the potty at regular intervals. If she is staying dry all day, maybe she's just getting tired and needs to be reminded to go later in the day.

Answer 9

is she in undies or pull-ups?
soon after we took away pullups we didn't have to many ooops.we all so did a sticker for each time she used the potty...and a big one for the whole day of no accidents. or call gramma and tell her what a big girl she is she used the potty. try to avoid the the ngitive side and really prasie her for useing potty...
plus she can pick dora..or care bears my little ponies and we don't want to pee on them they would be very upset.
i know this will make extra work for u but its worth it.
oh and what does she drink all day? jucies and kool-ade and things like bug jucise little hugs. will make her pee alot more and holding to could be a problem. just keeptaking her and helping her she'll get it soon..plus she may still want to be baby...

Answer 10

My daughter was 3 and would actually tell me to put a diaper on her cause she didn't want to use her potty.......this is what i did and it worked.....i let her pick out her panties that she wanted....then we put them on and i told her that she had to go to the potty.....if she did than she was rewarded with something that she wanted (usually she liked for me to blow bubbles/ yes we even did it in the house)....and if she didn't than she had to wash herself in the tub and we went right back to putting panties on not a diaper......yes at night for a while i still kept her in diapers just in case....but only put them on right before bed and when she got up i put her right on the potty and right into panties......it didn't take really that long before she got it