When you turn a guy down, then reconsider, how do you bring this fact up with him?
Friday night, my crush indicated to me that I excited him "started a fire" in his pants. I told him "I want to drop this subject!" But I really don't want to drop it. I just didn't know how to respond. So we dropped it. Monday, I thought he was ignoring me. I knew he had been sick over the weekend. So I approached him from the point of view of "I hope you're feeling better now." He talked to me okay then. But because he said he didn't feel like himself yet, I didn't bring up Friday night. So when I see him Wednesday or Thursday, what should I say? I need to know if I have that effect on him all the time? And I want to see where he sees us heading. But I don't know speak my feelings very well. I get flustered. And I'm am a grown woman so I can't use the "I'm in the 9th grade" excuse! What would you do in my situation. I am definately interested in him. I'm just lousy with guys. But this one is terrific.
2007-02-21 16:26:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be honest and open with him. If you are too shy, perhaps show him this question.
Tell him you think he's terrific and that you didn't know how to respond on Friday night. If he turns you on the same way, tell him so. It sounds like you two could have a real hot thing going on.
Just have some private communication time together - be honest with him on how you feel and see what happens from there. Ask him to be honest with you as well.
Peace & take care,
debm
2007-02-21 16:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by dam_9191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since u are really into this dude then I think u know exactly what u should say to him already. I would say speak from the heart over romantic dinner somewhere where to the two of u can have a heart warming conversation. A little wine or champagne should help ease the tension, and would calm you down as well. Cheers and good luck!
2007-02-21 16:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me suggest you just relax a little and try to lead him to relax a little.
I don't know how far you want to go with him, but you can try kissing, petting, etc. if you want to go pretty far.
What you say is not as important as what you do.
The problem men and women have connecting is they are often afraid to discuss how they feel, and a lot of times this comes from a fear of rejection.
Now it sounds to me like neither one of you are going to reject the other any time soon, so just try and let your guard down a little and encourage him to let his guard down a little.
If you want to make the first move try kissing--and I don't mean just a peck on the cheek. If it's right chemistry will pretty much take over.
2007-02-21 16:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he only wants one thing, and its not a relationship, plus he was thinking with the wrong head is this what you want.
2007-02-21 16:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's just a crush...I'd wait to see if there's a deeper ineterest than just a "fire in his pants"
2007-02-21 16:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell him the truth. that's the only way to deal with it.lies and b/s dont work
2007-02-21 16:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iwill be cool
2007-02-21 16:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋