My gf stopped at my apt and listened to my conversation with roommates from outside the front door. she told me the next day about this and let me think about it for a few hours, then she told me she really didn't. She says she told me that just to see what my reaction was to make sure my conversation with my roommates was not inappropriate. You see, previous to this, I did indeed meet a girl for coffee- a girl that I met on myspace.com. When I first met her on myspace, my gf and I were in a fight. After my gf and I made up, I did continue to email the girl and then met her for coffee as friends without my gf knowing, my gf was out of town at the time. She found out about that anyways, and this has caused some lack of trust in our relationship, and that’s my fault, I admit. To get to the point, what I am wondering is, do you think it is wrong for her to listen in on my conversation without me knowing, or even if she didn't, to say she did to see how I react to that?
2007-02-21 16:13:24 · 9 answers · asked by monkeyness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so u cheated on her, then yes, she has the right to ease drop. she should be allowed to make sure ur not cheating on her. can u blame her. if she cheated on u, wouldnt u wanna spy? i prolly would have done the same thing!
2007-02-21 16:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that if your g/f is having difficulty trusting you then perhaps she needs to reassess the situation. Trust is really important in a relationship and if she does not trust you then it will continue to cause strain like it is now. I don't think that she should be able to listen in on your conversations without you knowing. Where does this stop? She has to bug your phone? Listen in on the other line? I understand that you did break this trust but it does not give her the right to spy on you.
2007-02-21 16:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's wrong for her to listen in the sneaky way that she did and that she has to test you to see if you're worthy of her trust.
I don't like games, I've never played them with my boyfriends.
What she did was eavesdropping and that's wrong.
The only time when it would be appropriate for her to listen to conversations that you have with your buddies is when she is present in the room and actively participating in your conversation...not by sneaking around.
Although you did something wrong and you admit to it...it doesn't give your g/f the right to test you the way she is doing. If she has a trust issue with you, she should dump you and end it there. Suggest that, maybe that will stop her from being paranoid and manipulative.
2007-02-21 16:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Querida 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda tricky, she shouldn't invade your privacy, but you should be up front and honest with her about the other girl. Even if the girl that you met on myspace is just a friend, I have seen too many relationships crumble over secrets and withholding information
2007-02-21 16:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it's not right and usually never a good thing to do it is still going to happen and something that should be expected, if you are up to shady activity and she finds out once about it expect her to be paying really close attention to you, and the things you do without you knowing about it.
But it really isn't right but sometimes it is still needed.
2007-02-21 16:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by kloops1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s not right for her to listen in on your convos.That just goes to show that she might be jealous and and dose not trust u at all.If she did hear and say she didn`t then there might be no trust in that relationship at all.
2007-02-21 16:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after reading the whole question, if you went behind her back to meet another girl, I would say this is something that you have to accept, or you have to ended it. you broke her trust in you, live with the aftermath.
2007-02-21 16:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not right for her to do either. I don't see why talking with another girl is a bad thing your gf needs to learn to trust you.
2007-02-21 16:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by badmitton69 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i can understand why your girlfriend does this, and its not right but it is your fault, and you shouldn't be with someone who you can't trust, your always going have to live with this so either break up or try and earn her trust.
2007-02-21 16:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋